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BreathlessJade
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29 Sep 2022, 2:40 pm

Please somebody tell me you can identify. I'm actually alarmed by this, but I have to leave work early. My kiosk was place right in view of customers in line, people are constantly in my personal space and so much is going on! Talking to each other right in my face and like I'm not even there(I don't want their attention but it just makes it so awkward) I'm this close to causing a scene. I'm physically tensed and its painful. I've had this before but never fully had it explained. I can't tell my family, they don't understand



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30 Sep 2022, 6:41 am

You might try wearing a Covid mask even if you don't need one. It may help keep people from getting too close and discourage conversations.



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30 Sep 2022, 9:24 am

timf wrote:
You might try wearing a Covid mask even if you don't need one. It may help keep people from getting too close and discourage conversations.

I do wear a mask and I totally agree!! Thanks for that. I'm also bringing a writing pad to look busy.



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30 Sep 2022, 11:20 am

I wouldn't be able to do that job.
More power to you, if you can.

Would you be able to use earplugs?



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30 Sep 2022, 11:53 am

You should probably get another job.



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30 Sep 2022, 3:32 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I wouldn't be able to do that job.
More power to you, if you can.

Would you be able to use earplugs?

I wear 1 plug with my Bluetooth and some music softly. Its so intrusive where I'm at plus the people are either not friendly or I can't read them. I need a new job for real. Would a diagnosis make it easier to find better work or no?



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30 Sep 2022, 3:33 pm

rse92 wrote:
You should probably get another job.

Totally



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30 Sep 2022, 4:43 pm

BreathlessJade wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I wouldn't be able to do that job.
More power to you, if you can.

Would you be able to use earplugs?

I wear 1 plug with my Bluetooth and some music softly. Its so intrusive where I'm at plus the people are either not friendly or I can't read them. I need a new job for real. Would a diagnosis make it easier to find better work or no?


Are there other jobs you can do with the same employer, that aren't front line?
I don't know if an Autism diagnosis would make a difference specifically.
If you have sensory issues you could get a doctor's note / OT note about sensory.
You can present the issues individually instead of with an Autism diagnosis.



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30 Sep 2022, 4:46 pm

I wouldn't be able to do a job of that nature.


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30 Sep 2022, 5:20 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
BreathlessJade wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I wouldn't be able to do that job.
More power to you, if you can.

Would you be able to use earplugs?

I wear 1 plug with my Bluetooth and some music softly. Its so intrusive where I'm at plus the people are either not friendly or I can't read them. I need a new job for real. Would a diagnosis make it easier to find better work or no?


Are there other jobs you can do with the same employer, that aren't front line?
I don't know if an Autism diagnosis would make a difference specifically.
If you have sensory issues you could get a doctor's note / OT note about sensory.
You can present the issues individually instead of with an Autism diagnosis.


Great idea I'll explore that option while I wait to win the lottery for diagnosis. And its not just customers, a lot of staff are just moving up in front of me and talking amongst them selves. I'm this close to getting ugly.



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30 Sep 2022, 5:20 pm

CockneyRebel wrote:
I wouldn't be able to do a job of that nature.

Its crazy. I was gonna try to work in the store, not just a vendor...not after today.



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30 Sep 2022, 7:56 pm

Sweet Pea hugs


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30 Sep 2022, 8:40 pm

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Sweet Pea hugs

Thanks I could use one.



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01 Oct 2022, 1:17 pm

I had to walk out again. Staff members are standing with their buyts in my face. I had to walk out before I made a scene. I think I have to go back :cry: eating first. Called access and crisis # the guy was so cold



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02 Oct 2022, 5:50 pm

I can certainly sympathise. I had a similar problem at work once, only it wasn't that bad. They put me far too close to some noisy young people and I couldn't concentrate for their explosive yacking. We had very small desks and had to work elbow-to-elbow. One of them kept encroaching on my desk space with their stuff. Horrible experience. I didn't want to risk telling them to p** off and STFU, so I used closed-back headphones and played soothing music through them. When that wasn't enough, I just walked out and came back later when the annoying people had gone. I was lucky that the place wasn't strongly managed. Nobody ever complained about my solution. I don't think they even noticed what I was doing. To stop them encroaching onto my desk with their stuff, I made a little wall out of something or other - I can't remember what, but it was effective. I hate being invaded. I hope you find a solution.



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06 Oct 2022, 12:14 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
BreathlessJade wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I wouldn't be able to do that job.
More power to you, if you can.

Would you be able to use earplugs?

I wear 1 plug with my Bluetooth and some music softly. Its so intrusive where I'm at plus the people are either not friendly or I can't read them. I need a new job for real. Would a diagnosis make it easier to find better work or no?

That's extremely helpful. I might switch to a food sampler. I also applied for donation processor for goodwill.
Are there other jobs you can do with the same employer, that aren't front line?
I don't know if an Autism diagnosis would make a difference specifically.
If you have sensory issues you could get a doctor's note / OT note about sensory.
You can present the issues individually instead of with an Autism diagnosis.