"Friends" who ditch you

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Hi:
I wanted to talk about something that really bothers me regarding people who make it sound like they are your friends and have all the time in the world for you. Then they end up meeting other friends or a significant who is/are suddenly much more important while seeming to ditch you.

Does anyone else notices that?

Are they really ditching you, or just spending less time with you?

Given that people have only a finite number of hours in a day, it is only natural that, as people get busier or make new friends or a new significant other, they will spend less time with their old friends.

Some people really do completely ditch their old friends when they meet a significant other. Either they expect their romantic partner to be literally everything to them, with no need for a social life beyond their relationship, or they start feeling awkward around single people, preferring to socialize with couples only.

Other people do keep their old friends but just spend less time with them.

I've had that happen to me.

I've learned to just slough it off, and go back to listening to my YouTube

Penny isn’t like most people, even if she is “normal.”

I think friendships, even good friendships, like romantic relationships, often have something like a honeymoon phase (during which they see each other a lot), followed by a more settled-in phase.

Even a very good friendship is likely to have a settled-in phase, during which the friends don't see each other nearly as often as they did during the honeymoon-like phase. But the friendship still qualifies as a good friendship if, for example, the friends can count on each other to help each other out, in times of trouble, in whatever ways they reasonably can.

Kraftie:

I was referring to her pattern of friends before and after she married Leonard.

If you observe her during the series:

In the first few seasons, yes, she got to know her neighbors and their friends. Meanwhile she has other friends who she liked to watched football with.

Then as the show progresses, she dates Leonard and her circle friends shrink to Leonard’s friends, and the girlfriends of Howard and Sheldon.