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09 Feb 2023, 4:14 am

Mona Pereth wrote:
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I've dealt with this crap for too long. Even when things look like they're finally going to turn around, life slaps me in the face and knocks me to the ground. I'm in serious need of a lucky break. Otherwise the coming days are going to consist of me figuring out how I'm going to end my life. I think it's time I stopped talking about it and actually did it.

Please use your imagination to think of other possible jobs.

For example, if you happen to like dogs, and if you happen to live in or anywhere near a densely populated city, consider becoming a professional dog walker. Here in New York at least, professional dog-walking is actually a decent paying job.

I've tried to figure out job for many years and never been able to. I looked at the local job listings and found nothing that excited me.

My attitude after this is I'm not interested in working a job I have no passion for when I hate living anyway because I can't have a girlfriend and the intimacy and acceptance that comes along with one.

If I can't fill the romantic void in my life very soon then I don't care about anything else, and I don’t want to continue living.



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09 Feb 2023, 4:16 am

Where_am_I wrote:
Hope you're ok, TGI.

Thank you for the well-wishes, but I don't think I'm going to be ok.



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09 Feb 2023, 4:32 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
I've tried to figure out job for many years and never been able to. I looked at the local job listings and found nothing that excited me.

My attitude after this is I'm not interested in working a job I have no passion for when I hate living anyway because I can't have a girlfriend and the intimacy and acceptance that comes along with one.

If I can't fill the romantic void in my life very soon then I don't care about anything else, and I don’t want to continue living.


MOST ppl "work to live...not live to work".
I worked 28 years solid and it was torture.
I finally had "Autistic Burn Out", but by then, I was able to retire at 50 and was financially secure.
"Life wasn't meant to be easy as Malcolm Fraser said."



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09 Feb 2023, 4:42 am

Pepe wrote:
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I've tried to figure out job for many years and never been able to. I looked at the local job listings and found nothing that excited me.

My attitude after this is I'm not interested in working a job I have no passion for when I hate living anyway because I can't have a girlfriend and the intimacy and acceptance that comes along with one.

If I can't fill the romantic void in my life very soon then I don't care about anything else, and I don’t want to continue living.


MOST ppl "work to live...not live to work".
I worked 28 years solid and it was torture.
I finally had "Autistic Burn Out", but by then, I was able to retire at 50 and was financially secure.
"Life wasn't meant to be easy as Malcolm Fraser said."

I'd work a job I had no passion for if it meant sustaining an existence I was happy with, but I'm not going to be unhappy at work just to come home and be unhappy at home as well.

I'm sick of being lonely and never having had a girlfriend. The devastation I'm experiencing over this job falling through is much more impactful with the weight of my romantic issues behind it. If I had a girlfriend to support me through this, I'd be able to handle it a lot better, but as it stands, this job falling through is just another upsetting issue I have to deal with on top of the girlfriend issue which I'm already severely depressed about.



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09 Feb 2023, 4:58 am

I wish you could go back to university.

I’m sorry you’re feeling so bad.

It actually doesn’t hurt to get a free consultation with a lawyer, if that’s available.



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09 Feb 2023, 5:09 am

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Awkwardly interjecting myself here, a well groomed stubble seems a lot less divisive with ladies than a larger beard. It can really pop a nice jawline out for example and lends itself better to styling and blending in. You might be surprised how good it can look on you if you never tried it before.

I used to have a longish beard but when I started trimming it even the other guys started commenting on it in a good way.


Not so "awkwardly Interjecting" here. :mrgreen:

It is still my belief that women, and ppl in general, generally prefer a shorter styled beard than a long one, especially in a work environment.
Personally, I don't think the request to trim it was unreasonable.
The problem here is the misunderstanding that caused The Inquisitor to quit his job.
Surely "an ambulance chaser" lawyer would scramble to represent him. :scratch:


A lawyer would be tricky. It's just escalation of a situation that gets to a point where it seems vengeful. A court case for a beard trim? Will a judge look kindly on such a case?



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09 Feb 2023, 5:20 am

Nades wrote:
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Awkwardly interjecting myself here, a well groomed stubble seems a lot less divisive with ladies than a larger beard. It can really pop a nice jawline out for example and lends itself better to styling and blending in. You might be surprised how good it can look on you if you never tried it before.

I used to have a longish beard but when I started trimming it even the other guys started commenting on it in a good way.


Not so "awkwardly Interjecting" here. :mrgreen:

It is still my belief that women, and ppl in general, generally prefer a shorter styled beard than a long one, especially in a work environment.
Personally, I don't think the request to trim it was unreasonable.
The problem here is the misunderstanding that caused The Inquisitor to quit his job.
Surely "an ambulance chaser" lawyer would scramble to represent him. :scratch:


A lawyer would be tricky. It's just escalation of a situation that gets to a point where it seems vengeful. A court case for a beard trim? Will a judge look kindly on such a case?


Not weirder than a friendzone court case.



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09 Feb 2023, 5:25 am

Nades wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Nades wrote:
Awkwardly interjecting myself here, a well groomed stubble seems a lot less divisive with ladies than a larger beard. It can really pop a nice jawline out for example and lends itself better to styling and blending in. You might be surprised how good it can look on you if you never tried it before.

I used to have a longish beard but when I started trimming it even the other guys started commenting on it in a good way.


Not so "awkwardly Interjecting" here. :mrgreen:

It is still my belief that women, and ppl in general, generally prefer a shorter styled beard than a long one, especially in a work environment.
Personally, I don't think the request to trim it was unreasonable.
The problem here is the misunderstanding that caused The Inquisitor to quit his job.
Surely "an ambulance chaser" lawyer would scramble to represent him. :scratch:


A lawyer would be tricky. It's just escalation of a situation that gets to a point where it seems vengeful. A court case for a beard trim? Will a judge look kindly on such a case?

There's no harm in getting free legal advice to see if there's a case.

The case would be over being misled into accepting the job and quitting my old job under conditions that I specifically said I didn't agree to.



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09 Feb 2023, 5:37 am

Please don’t give up about getting another job, or training for something like x-ray technician, or going back to some college or university.

Or perhaps being a counselor for people who are down in their luck?



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09 Feb 2023, 5:56 am

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Please don’t give up about getting another job, or training for something like x-ray technician, or going back to some college or university.

Or perhaps being a counselor for people who are down in their luck?

I'm inclined to give up on life if I can't address my romantic loneliness asap.



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09 Feb 2023, 8:14 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Nades wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Nades wrote:
Awkwardly interjecting myself here, a well groomed stubble seems a lot less divisive with ladies than a larger beard. It can really pop a nice jawline out for example and lends itself better to styling and blending in. You might be surprised how good it can look on you if you never tried it before.

I used to have a longish beard but when I started trimming it even the other guys started commenting on it in a good way.


Not so "awkwardly Interjecting" here. :mrgreen:

It is still my belief that women, and ppl in general, generally prefer a shorter styled beard than a long one, especially in a work environment.
Personally, I don't think the request to trim it was unreasonable.
The problem here is the misunderstanding that caused The Inquisitor to quit his job.
Surely "an ambulance chaser" lawyer would scramble to represent him. :scratch:


A lawyer would be tricky. It's just escalation of a situation that gets to a point where it seems vengeful. A court case for a beard trim? Will a judge look kindly on such a case?

There's no harm in getting free legal advice to see if there's a case.

The case would be over being misled into accepting the job and quitting my old job under conditions that I specifically said I didn't agree to.


They would consider the extent as to which they mislead you though. Getting it wrong over the length of beard seems on the very low end for a case and so low it's hard to even guess if you were intentionally mislead. I'm no lawyer but that's my impression.

What's the importance of this beard though? Some people here don't understand the unwillingness for a style change when you've mentioned over a long period of time about your difficulty being seen in a sexual and romantic light by women. I would have thought you would be open to some experimentation especially when it'll result in killing two birds with one stone with a job you would like too.



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09 Feb 2023, 8:43 am

To everyone who thinks this fellow ought to go sue his former employer:

1. He was not fired. He quit. Had he continued with his employment, not trimmed his beard, and been terminated, maybe, maybe he'd have some sort of case. But he quit. That's a bad fact.

2. Becoming the guy who quit his job for refusing to trim his beard and then suing his former employer is not a good look to other prospective employers, who will find this lawsuit on a routine background check.



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09 Feb 2023, 8:44 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Please don’t give up about getting another job, or training for something like x-ray technician, or going back to some college or university.

Or perhaps being a counselor for people who are down in their luck?

I'm inclined to give up on life if I can't address my romantic loneliness asap.


Or you could trim your beard and go back to work at the casino where you will meet many people every day.



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09 Feb 2023, 8:46 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
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I've tried to figure out job for many years and never been able to. I looked at the local job listings and found nothing that excited me.

My attitude after this is I'm not interested in working a job I have no passion for when I hate living anyway because I can't have a girlfriend and the intimacy and acceptance that comes along with one.

If I can't fill the romantic void in my life very soon then I don't care about anything else, and I don’t want to continue living.


MOST ppl "work to live...not live to work".
I worked 28 years solid and it was torture.
I finally had "Autistic Burn Out", but by then, I was able to retire at 50 and was financially secure.
"Life wasn't meant to be easy as Malcolm Fraser said."

I'd work a job I had no passion for if it meant sustaining an existence I was happy with, but I'm not going to be unhappy at work just to come home and be unhappy at home as well.

I'm sick of being lonely and never having had a girlfriend. The devastation I'm experiencing over this job falling through is much more impactful with the weight of my romantic issues behind it. If I had a girlfriend to support me through this, I'd be able to handle it a lot better, but as it stands, this job falling through is just another upsetting issue I have to deal with on top of the girlfriend issue which I'm already severely depressed about.


I'm not sure a girlfriend would support you quitting a good job because you would not trim your beard.



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09 Feb 2023, 8:52 am

Nades wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Nades wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Nades wrote:
Awkwardly interjecting myself here, a well groomed stubble seems a lot less divisive with ladies than a larger beard. It can really pop a nice jawline out for example and lends itself better to styling and blending in. You might be surprised how good it can look on you if you never tried it before.

I used to have a longish beard but when I started trimming it even the other guys started commenting on it in a good way.


Not so "awkwardly Interjecting" here. :mrgreen:

It is still my belief that women, and ppl in general, generally prefer a shorter styled beard than a long one, especially in a work environment.
Personally, I don't think the request to trim it was unreasonable.
The problem here is the misunderstanding that caused The Inquisitor to quit his job.
Surely "an ambulance chaser" lawyer would scramble to represent him. :scratch:


A lawyer would be tricky. It's just escalation of a situation that gets to a point where it seems vengeful. A court case for a beard trim? Will a judge look kindly on such a case?

There's no harm in getting free legal advice to see if there's a case.

The case would be over being misled into accepting the job and quitting my old job under conditions that I specifically said I didn't agree to.


They would consider the extent as to which they mislead you though. Getting it wrong over the length of beard seems on the very low end for a case and so low it's hard to even guess if you were intentionally mislead. I'm no lawyer but that's my impression.

What's the importance of this beard though? Some people here don't understand the unwillingness for a style change when you've mentioned over a long period of time about your difficulty being seen in a sexual and romantic light by women. I would have thought you would be open to some experimentation especially when it'll result in killing two birds with one stone with a job you would like too.

It's tiring repeating myself. If you don't get it, you're not going to get it.



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09 Feb 2023, 8:53 am

rse92 wrote:
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Please don’t give up about getting another job, or training for something like x-ray technician, or going back to some college or university.

Or perhaps being a counselor for people who are down in their luck?

I'm inclined to give up on life if I can't address my romantic loneliness asap.


Or you could trim your beard and go back to work at the casino where you will meet many people every day.

Or you can stfu and get lost.