Why make people compare themselves to others ?

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If all it does is fuel other people's envy and jealous and pressure them into being like them especially when you see it on reality TV, social media, on adverts (commercials), on billboards and posters etc. The thing is I look at some of these things and for some reason it doesn't always make me smile and think to myself and think ''Yeah I want to be like them and so I am going put all the time and effort into being like them.'' I seem to think other people look at those things positively without having green feelings of envy whereas with me those same feelings don't always appear. It feels as though there must be something wrong with me if I am not inspired by something that smiles at you to make you look better. It makes me feel like I must be a psychopath with no empathy and doesn't care about others. This sounds like over-reacting with that's how it feels.

I've spoken many times about the feelings I get from missing out on things, not doing certain things because they don't interest me even though I see a lot of other people doing them and pressuring my own self to do them whether or not I want to or don't want to because otherwise I'll end feeling like an ''abnormality'' if I don't. One example I recently wrote about not feeling very interested in going to a gym but when I am bombarded by stuff on TV or on my phone with things like Peloton, Puregym etc, as I said it still doesn't motivate me and make me go ''Yeah OK lets doing some working out.'' I feel more motivated to do other things like reading, writing etc and I don't always get round to using my weights at home except on occasions and not every day. I then end up beating myself up in my own head because I ''wanted'' to do something else besides doing 24 hour exercise and working out. I don't know if I am failing to appreciate what I really want to do and the decisions I have made and unable to accept the fact that I am different to others and that not everyone is doing the things I think everyone is doing because I obviously don't know what other people get up to in their own lives.