Are you conscious of how lonely you are?

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I tend to "forget" how lonely I am for long stretches of time, and then when I remember I suddenly feel really sad.

I was watching a youtube video where the host was working on a project and they invited a couple friends over to help them with it, and they were all laughing and talking and having so much fun. I wish I had people I could invite over to do things with me. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm wasting my life, sitting alone in my room for most of my time.

You aren't alone in feeling this way. It's what I'm going through at the moment as well.
I'm not alone (I have other family members in the home), but unlike one of them, I don't have a preference for being by myself, and unlike the other, I don't have a whole lot of online friends to chat to, chill with, play games with, enjoy shared interests with, etc.

I do have a few trusted old friends, but they have very busy lives... I've tried many, many times to plan time, or even try impromptu visits with them, but it's near impossible. Their lives don't seem to have room for such recreation.
I hate how it seems our friendships are "not enough" for them to want to make time to hang out, but when I see how stressed and exhausted they are each time I do see them, I retract that feeling.

I share your feelings. It's strange, I prefer to be in solitude but am also lonely at the same time. I have great friends, we get together often, but lack a truly intimate relationship.

I don't feel lonely. I never do.

Just alone in a crowd. I'm more alone than anything else than just lonely.
I always feel like I have to do things myself and prefer to do so.


If I were so lonely, I would've ran away long time ago. Never had to take terms about loneliness because I never truly felt it to begin with.

The main reason why I am never truly lonely is... Somewhat able to see 'Human fundamentals'.

Which I cannot elaborate well except it's what makes everything and everyone a part of something much larger.

Like it didn't matter how 'useless' a person is, or how well accomplished a person had been.

In a sense no one is truly alone.
To me it translates to my lack of loneliness.
Even if I have to be alone, isolated as much as possible, trying not to affect anyone in such sense.

But I already made a damn ripple, it already made a damn waves. So what's the point?

Only times I forget those is during the irrational and immersive states -- which I'm sure if it lasted long and intense enough, it makes a diagnosable mental illness.

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Same here. I'm alright half of the time, but the other half I'm lonely.

The stupid thing is, I have a husband and daughter but I'm still lonely. Husband has lots of social support- us; his birth family; his workplace; his cadet group; his military group.

Daughter has us; her college friends; her old school friends.

I have: 2 people (husband and daughter)

I look at them jealously to wonder how they do it. How do they make friends? How does anyone make friends? Because I can't. I'm mostly at home working/ doing housework with no one to meet up with, even though I've tried every local group I can think of to try and find friends.

Sometimes I am aware of how lonely I am

Otherwise, *keep busy*

Jobs
Hobbies
Friends
Goals

They only go so far but better than nothing

I really only feel lonely around other people. Probably more a sense of exclusion more than anything else, or just being shown what I'm missing. Alone, I'm as close to content as I get. If I have things to keep me busy, I forget that there's a world out there that I'm not a part of.

If you forget you are lonely, then you are (during that time period) - NOT lonely. Lonely is a feeling, Being alone is not the same thing.

Am I conscious of how lonely I am?  Yes, definitely.

Do I sit alone, mope, whine, and cry about it?  Certainly not!

I'm not sure that I've ever felt lonely. If I have, it's been in the presence of other people...realizing how very much I do not relate to them and how much they do not relate to me. Would it be nice to have someone I 'click' with? Yeah. Am I holding my breath, waiting for that to happen? No.