Hate it when I see that someone has ''unfriended'' me

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When I last checked social media I had 36 ''friends'' then 35 and then 34. I found out that someone I knew I used to work with had unfriended me and has left me with this sinking feeling. I feel like he like other people have done it because I had spoken to other people he knew about some issues I have and that he was fed up with it. It makes me feel and look like a bad person.

People un-friend or stop following people or content they either don't like or are tired of seeing. Since its impossible to please everyone, the only thing you can really do is stop focusing on your number of followers or change your content or both.

If your content is repetitive, people may just be getting tired of seeing the same old thing day in and day out, so you might try switching things around once in a while?

I get upset when people unfriend me on Facebook too. Usually people who leave work unfriend me but don't unfriend anyone else at work even though I know they aren't close friends or anything. I get a mixture of hurt and confusion.

Also I've lost count how many people I have sent friend requests to only to be rejected straight away. And yes, these are people I know, have spoken to, and have a lot of mutual friends with. When I look at other people's Facebook friends I notice they have like 1000 friends, surely a lot of them are people they know, have spoken to and have a lot of mutual friends with too.

Maybe the rules apply differently to anyone with my name. Or maybe it's something in my profile picture that turns people away (even though it's just a nice photo of me with my boyfriend). My cover photo just has my pets. Nothing out of the ordinary. Very NT-friendly.

I'm mystified. Maybe we'll add it to the 8 wonders of the world list.

Im sorry you're feeling bad. Facebook makes me feel bad al the time, like a failure.

Hey, their loss.

I unfriend people who don't interact with me in any way. It takes a long time to come to that. Like, a year.

You can guarantee that nobody ever unfriends you again, simply by never adding any more "friends" again

Not that hard

That's what I did

Plenty of lil dipshits have had the nerve to "unfriend" me. When they added me it made me a lil happy for a short time. When they unfriended me it made me pretty unhappy for a long time


With "friends" like that, who needs enemies?

I've not actually looked at my number of friends in years, so if anyone's left, I didn't notice.....

Usually, any time I'm unfriended, it's out of nowhere.

Oftentimes people friend me, but never want to interact. I think most people add me as a friend just to watch their number of friends go up, and I am only needed to stroke the egos of others.

I come across very few people who have the same interests, and I worry about being unfriended by them, because I never know when or if I will ever come across another person with those interests.

Last time I unfriended somebody, Facebook reassured me that they wouldn't know. But maybe they've changed things. Meanwhile I've been using a browser plugin called Social Fixer that keeps track of unfriendings and re-friendings and lets you see them if you want to. I heard that it can't tell the difference between being actively unfriended and the friend being offline for too long.

I suppose most people would feel at least a tad hurt at being unfriended, especially if there's no obvious explanation. I don't mind so much if I can understand why. One chap blocked me after I'd argued against something he'd said. He was notorious for being offensive and I was glad to be shut of him. A couple more people have unfriended me without any obvious reason, and that bothered me. It's possible they were just doing a cleanup and removing friends they hadn't much interacted with, but I don't know, and I still wonder whether there was some other reason that wasn't so innocent.

I may be overconcious but I feel like anytime I see my follow county go down by 1 it's because they were only being nice to me as a formality

I used to dislike it too. And it happened slowly over time.

Certain people seem destined to drift out of one's life, and if you are autistic, like people have said, there seems to be an undercurrent of hatred towards autistic folk.