Why would someone not want to talk to me after 2 years?

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There was this person I chatted with online a huge amount... practically wrote books taking into account all messages... I thought we were fairly close, once she even seemed to indicate she had some infatuation with me... but suddenly she doesn't care anymore, begins blocking me, then unblocking when I sought her elsewhere, until finally she just rebuked me for some reason (and supposedly said she wants to talk only after six months, but I think that's long gone now)... I even ended up writing a novel at her suggestion, which she never cared to read... before that she was really the only person I chatted with most... ever, possibly... I mean, I never exactly had many friends, but I supposedly have one irl I knew for over a decade, but on average we only talked for a couple of hours weekly, and lately not even that... ended up chatting with her for about two years, sometimes for up to 10 hours a day, mostly 2020/21 when apparently she got stuck in a uni dorm when her uni wasn't very functional due to covid... but suddenly she went back to her family and apparently I wasn't needed anymore.

Not sure, but I do feel the pangs of loneliness...

First of all, that wasn't very nice of her to treat you like that as it's very hurtful and confusing. I don't think it's fair that she didn't bother offering you any type of explanation. On the other hand, some people have no problem turning it off and never looking. However, she honestly doesn't sound like someone who is worth persuing if she treats you like that.

Fnord, what are you on about, we certainly didn't talk about just me...

Some friendships run out of steam.

It happens.

I always end up with 0 due to that...

Hi,

Without knowing the details, there could be many reasons. You said you mainly spoke to her while Covid was on. Perhaps as her life got back to normal she had less and less time for online chat. Perhaps she has found someone who she likes spending time with in real life. I don’t know if she is neurodivergent or typical, but if she is neurodivergent she may have just forgotten about you, and the longer the gaps in chatting, the harder it is to start up again. It seems like you are ruminating too much about the whole thing.

She explicitly said she wants to pause (at least what she claimed back then) chatting, so nothing to do with natural gaps. But, yeah, either way it's harsh if it's just because there's other people when we spent countless hours chatting. Don't think she has an official diagnosis, but she thinks she's BPD.

People with BPD usually have quite an unstable emotional life, and that can affect the ability to form long lasting, healthy relationships for people with BPD.

So I wouldn't take it personally.

Maybe she got her own reason of not talking to you but I hope you get the reasons why and have a peace of mind on this.

I never even got any sensible reason for why my ex left me a decade ago (I guess, besides losing interest)... sometimes it seems there aren't clear reasons, and I might be destined to be forever alone...

there is more than one fish in the sea.

Uh, most fish don't like me... and if some somehow do it's usually not reciprocal (older etc)... only once, a decade ago, was it mutual... for just 7 months.