Is it wrong to be attracted to someone 10/12 years younger?

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In my early 30s still feel as though I'm attracted to a woman who is in her early 20s. I don't know if that's ''wrong'' or not I mean we are both adults but I don't if its because an older person maybe looking for a more serious relationship than a younger person and they may not feel ready for it. My mum met her partner in her mid 40s and he was in his late 20s and have been together since 2008. Usually I'd prefer to meet someone who is probably between a year or five years younger than me but obviously I can't really help how old the other person is.

There's nothing wrong with it as long as a person isn't pursuing someone who's underage or vulnerable in some way related to inexperience.

When it comes to my personal preferences, I'd prefer people to be within 8 years of me - 7.67 years to be more (but not strictly) precise.

There's nothing wrong with it since you are both adults, but if she's delayed or young for her age you might want to look for someone else so it won't feel exploitative.

One of my bf's was 14 years older.

I'm currently dating someone who is ten years older than I am. We both are stable adults with careers. The only times our age has 'shown' so to speak, is him giving me wisdom about navigating my 20's, cultural things like our interests, or when people ask if I'm his daughter.

I look younger than I am, and he looks older than his age. Does not bode well.

My current boyfriend is also 10 years older than me which can be seen as problematic but if 2 people really love each other it shouldn't matter!

In theory, acting on attraction is a bigger deal than simply possessing it.

If you're attracted to someone who's vulnerable, someone you have a power differential over, a minor, someone with significant developmental or cognitive issues, someone experiencing a mental health crisis, etc, you owe it to both yourself and to them to not become involved in that sort of way.

If one believes their affection for that person is sincere they should be willing to recognize the need to place the other party's well-being ahead of their own desires.

But broadly speaking, no, there's nothing wrong with being in your 30s and pursuing a 20-something so long as none of the previous is applicable to that person.

If you are under the age of 35, yes.

As I get older I still find myself still often attracted to women that are barely legal. I gave this some though awhile ago and figured out why.

Part of it is because I've honestly always found it difficult to guess the actual age of most women within the 16-40 age range. It was a problem when I was 18-20 and it's no better now that I'm 40 plus.

Part of is that most people have relationships with people close to their age and in long-term relationships you age up with someone else. Because of my dearth of romantic relationships throughout my life, I've never been able to do that. I barely even have any platonic friends that I've seen regularly to age up with.

Part of it is that younger women are less likely to have been through a divorce or have children, and in general are more likely to still be enthusiastic and vibrant. Single women in their late 30s or 40s have usually been through some serious s**t, and have a certain weariness to them.

There's also the curious fact that when I was 20 people often thought I was 30, but now that I'm 40 people still think I'm closer to 30. It's certainly not because because I'm athletic or have remarkable looks, then or now. It may reflect how I was mature for my age as a teenager, but due to how my life went I ended up at 32 being at the point where most people are at 22.

It's all kind of a moot point because very few women of any age have ever found me attractive.

If you're in middle school..YEAH...its wrong to be attracted to "someone 10/12 years younger".

If your 112 years old there is nothing wrong with being attracted to a 100 year old person.

To take two extreme examples.

In between...it depends.

Of course not, as long as you're both mentally competent adults.

But does she have feelings towards you? It does not sound right to want someone 10+ years younger.

I know some will disagree me but I think as long as yall have reached the age of consent in your jurisdiction its okay.I am in Texas and the age of consent is 17 here.

In your case, no.

Why ?

B.S.

As a matter of law, at your age no, it is not "wrong".

As to whether third parties would find it "wrong," to heck with those people.