Sitting on lap

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How would you feel if you saw a photo of your significant other sitting on someone's lap?

Is that a violation of trust or just cute?

If it was a photo that was taken since we were together, I’d view it as a violation of trust.

My guy sitting on someone's lap?
Well now, that would be interesting.
Not in a good way.

It would depend on whose lap.

This sounds like the sort of thread I would start

There was actually a picture of my grandfather and grandmother from the early 1950s where she is sitting on another man’s lap and my grandad is sitting in the same photo smiling.

What if it’s Santa’s lap?

I’d rather see a SO sitting on Santa’s lap than a kid.

Depends a lot on the context. Whose lap? Why? Under what circumstances? How are they sitting?

Straddling a stranger at a bar is very different from posing for a silly photo with a group of friends.

Today Pro supervisor MA was sitting on a chair and Cashier Janice told her to get off and MA refused and Janice sat on MA's lap

Tattle tale tom was sitting right there and he didn't even laugh

I however could not stop laughing

(Only at home Depot)

I would want to know the details about the context of said photo before I'd know how I'd feel.

I think that the original question is too simple to answer definitively. It depends on many factors. Some that immediately come to mind are the relationship between my partner and the other person, my relationship between me and the other person, our relationship (me and partner), the context of the picture, previous discussions and agreements of boundaries, history of the relationship, etc. For example, it's one thing for them to sit on the lap of a family member that I have a good relationship with for a family photo in which many people are sitting on laps, and it's another thing for them to have cheated previously be sitting on the lap of the person that keeps telling her to break up with me for them after I've expressed concern over their relationship while taken in a gondola when I wasn't even aware they were together that night.

I think it's best to talk about it with your partner. If you don't like how you feel about it during the discussion or find that you are having to convince yourself or suppress your emotions, then you're probably not okay with it. That would take further introspection on your part. I've been told to always trust my intuition, which means that if something doesn't feel right or feels odd/weird, then there's likely a valid reason for that feeling that isn't just me making it up to start problems. Another approach is to notice how your partner responds to your concern. Do (a) they respond how you would respond if they brought it up to you and you wanted to make sure they were happy with the discussion, or (b) does it become antagonistic (you vs. them)? The latter would be a sign that it's not healthy for you.

i don't understand how janice could feel so comfortable at acting so disinhibited, b/c i am always guarded/edgy/uptight.

MA is not janice's supervisor, but MA used to be janice's supervisor, and MA is still *a* supervisor.

janice is 76 years old and MA is 35.

a couple weeks ago, janice was trying to sit on *her* supervisor, AW's lap.

janice could say that she was "thinking outside the box", which is a job requirement on some job postings. "sense of humor" also a good thing, all things equal, which they are not.

however, i see janice as "failure to pick your battles".

in the breakroom, there is a bed that i like to lie down on. sometimes, other servants sit on it, but i do not lie down in their laps.

76 year old female sitting on somebody's lap would be a painful/humiliating experience for the person sitting down.

Cyberdora

Supervisor MA might not agree with you

Otherwise she would have gotten off the chair

Sounds like a sick individual.