Friends and enemies

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What kind of bad and wrong actions and statements did your "frenemies" allegedly make?

What are some examples of friends that became enemies, or vice versa?

What do your friends and enemies not like about you?

- Statements that frenemies made

A. I'm higher functioning than you
B. You're weird
C. My friends don't like you
D. My friends all hate you
E. You don't eat right, you're too skinny
G. That's annoying
H. I would introduce you to my other friends if only you didn't talk so much
I. That's cool
J. Other people think you're ugly
K. You get on my nerves 75%


- Wrong actions
A. They were never there for me when I needed them
B. They stood me up
C. They invited me to things and then took the invitation away from me by giving me a poor excuse
D. I worked with one of them who dumped me when a new co-worker came along. After that, she acted like she was mad at me.
E. That co-worker told everyone behind my back that she hated me and that I made it up that we were friends
F. They said they were my friends but always left me out and then would brag about it later
G. One of them danced with me at prom because they felt "Bad" that I didn't have a date and went by myself. Then later, told everyone that I broke him and his girlfriend up because I was crazy and obsessed with him.
H. They were competitive and would get to do something that really wanted to do. They would then brag to me about how they got it.
I. Everything and everyone was always more important
K. They broke promises to me
J. They made excuses about why I wasn't invited to their things

-. How we became frenemies
A. One of them made and broke several promises to me along with also doing and saying other things that I didn't like. Though I would confront her, she always had the need to be right.
B. I would not let one of them act condescending to me
C. I got into a disagreement with one of them who turned out to be a troublemaker
D. I called some people out

3. What they don't like about me
A. I talk too much and dominate the conversation
B. I am hyper
C. I'm bubbly
D. How I do my get-togethers
E. How I found my calling and they didn't
F. I am outspoken
G. I call people names and especially when I am not treated right
H. I wear short hair
I. I tend to get mad when I don't like something
J. I have alcohol at my parties
K. I'm weird
L. I tend to embarrass them
M. I am not a passive person that one can control

This is a tough one, i think for me .....it has been hard for me to make a happy medium between a friend or a enemy
ingrained into my poor little Aspie mind , does not have alotta extra room in it ,to segregate persons into a gray area.
Brain analyzed everything most all my life. Into "Black and White only" . Never wanted to try to do "inbetween" people. Very possibly because of the level of the Spectrum , i may very well be on ??? but it is easier for me that way

For me, I also had trouble understanding when someone was a frenemy myself. For one thing, I had trouble taking everyone seriously. If they told me they were my best friends, I would believe them. I bet that is why they kept stringing me along because they probably thought that I was vulnerable.

Even though they strung me along, I kept feeling convinced that they would come around and make time for me. This was despite being constantly let down, feeling hurt, and frustrated. On a few occasions, things got to a boiling point with me and I blew up at a few of them.

- I grew frustrated after appearing to reconnect with someone who I played with during childhood. However, she wasn't interested and kept jerking me around while treating me poorly. I ended up yelling at her on her mom's answering machine.

I would also introduce these, "Friends" to other people, they saw the red flags and told me, "You don't they don't seem like they are very interested in you."