What are the reasons for being single long term?

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I'm aromantic and don't want to date.

There's a difference between "women have it easier" and "women have it easy."

There's also a really important difference between a general opinion - "women (on average) have it easier"- and an absolute -"women never have problems or struggles."



Some breakups are certainly worse than others - cheating, abuse, fighting - but I would call those ugly or nasty breakups rather than "bad" breakups. Bad breakups implies there are "good" breakups.

Even the best possible breakup I can imagine - mutually parting on good terms and remaining friends - is simply depressing in a different way.

I'll agree that there's a difference between those statements, but I don't think that either of them are true.

I don't think it's possible to remain friends with an ex. It's like getting stuck in the past. Move on, find different friends and lovers. I think that is healthier.

For me, it was the mental health problems that i have like anxiety, depression prevented me from having a relationship.

I don't know what is the reason for other people.

I’m extremely shy.

yup, this article right here reminds me how i have over the years, hated being born the male gender:

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-con ... g-so-what/

Check this article out:
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-64953941


Yeah, being a female has been great.

If they're in a separate social orbit that's relatively easy. If your ex is integrated into your social circle that could be almost impossible without ditching all your friends.

I've got the added difficulty that the Venn diagram of "women I'd date" and "women I'd be friends with" is almost a circle.

Of the five closest friends I've had in my life, four are women, all of whom I dated or attempted to date. If I hadn't remained friends with them my life would be even more lonely.

My longest relationship we did not remain friends, but since it was long-distance that was relatively easy. And the reason we didn't remain friends was mostly because I was disappointed with her life choices after we broke up.

Although I'm not an expert on human mate and sexual selection, I think human biology can at least partially explain why some men can't get a girlfriend or sex.

If evolution is true and humans really evolved like the other animals of the animal kingdom then this can explain why women will always go after the most handsome and strongest guys while ignoring the less handsome and weaker guys.
Evolution also explains why men will also do the same to women too.

It's always about trying to get the best genes possible.

Read the book Sexual Selections: What We Can and Can’t Learn about Sex from Animals

Also see the book Sexual Selection Under Parental Choice: The Evolution of Human Mating Behavior

It's on amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=human+sexual ... nb_sb_noss

ya thats why it seems far more men in the world struggle to get a girlfriend than the amount of women who struggle to get a boyfriend.

But that doesn't make any sense

I am average-looking and so is my boyfriend

Not getting out and about socially as an autistic person has to contribute to a lot of autistic folk having difficulty obtaining a partner (should they want one) - surely?

Yes that is the main reason

i assume he was the one who asked you out, pursued you and started talking to you first.

That is correct @WantToHaveALife