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My sister told me that she is going to sell the house I live in and buy a bigger house and put a "shed" in the backyard for me to live in.

It makes me uptight because I don't know when I have to move or where. However my sister and her husband both work in the city I currently live. They are a physician and electrical engineer. I think they are going to keep working the same locations. However they have cars and I don't. When I move, I might have to work at a different home Depot. Yesterday I went to the two home Depots closest to my sister's current house. Neither one had day laborers, that I saw. Both were in shopping malls with plenty of bathrooms nearby. Checked out the bathroom situation.

Transferring stores at home Depot is not that hard, according to the manager. But what worries me the most is having to deal with new coworkers. Been working at the current home Depot nearly three years and got used to the coworkers. I hate being new. I don't feel like I belong. Although I still don't feel like I belong, at least it's familiar and routine

Hard time coping with change

Also have to cope with the change of different transportation schedules. My sister lives somewhere more urban than I do. I don't feel comfortable around a lot of people. However the crime rate is not that high over there.

I just don't want to move

Also, my sister said she is putting "a shed" in the backyard for me to live in. Home Depot sells "tuff sheds". Eight by ten by ten feet. And I could not imagine how a refrigerator, litterbox, table, bed, and sink all fit in there

The "shed" might not have indoor plumbing or electricity. It might be like a "shed" that the homeless live in on the side of the freeway

This is scaring me into (1) emotional overeating (2) gastrointestinal difficulty (3) sleep difficulty (4) excessive social withdrawal (5) despair

The "shed" might be filthy with snakes, spiders, flies, ants and etcetera

Also it might be necessary for me to get a side hustle. Second job.

Been working at home Depot for three years. Lot attendant. But that's just minimum wage and part time. Pretty soon will be too old, injured and disabled to do that job.

And I hate having to deal with coworkers that have:

Felony convictions
Mental illness
Gang memberships
Drug addictions
Big egos

Zero etiquette

Ghettoass lil dips**ts

Extroverts judgmental emotional, Myers Briggs type

Zero critical thinking skills

Sometimes I imagine their heads on a dog's body.

And some of them are "in" with the manager so I am afraid that they might get me made redundant

Annoying lil dips**ts scare the s**t out of me



Maybe I should get a work from home job

I wish there was a way to improve your situation. It certainly sounds like you are dealing with a lot.

I wish I had good things to say. Best I have is to commiserate the best I can. Dealing with change and the unknown...oh bloody hell I hate that sh**. I can only imagine how awful this all must be for you. Liminal spaces suck. I hope you can find some ways to take care of you in all this.

A lot of people live in 'sheds' in my area which are very nice and similar to a flat or unit. They usually have plumbing and are insulated and vermin proof.

Ask her what area they're looking for a house in so you know if you need to change jobs and can look into a few things in advance.

I doubt she meant a literal shed. She's a doctor and he's an engineer. A tiny home/coach house/guest house etc would be a relative "shed," to the large home on the property, but chances are it will be at minimum the equivalent to a basic single-wide mobile trailer home or some pre-fab tiny home or container home vs. a literal garden shed with no power/water etc.

Are they planning on living in the house themselves? Or they're just trying to figure out a way to own a place that they can rent out to market rent paying tenants and keep you housed on the property at minimal expense/potential profit for them vs. the likely losing position they're in now ? Could be a win-win smart move all around and IMO you really should just have a conversation with your sister and ask for more information/details so you know what plan is in the works and can relax a little knowing what's changing vs. guessing/wondering/assuming what location & amenities you may or may not have. I doubt she's trying to cause you a bunch of stress and has no idea the lack of complete info is driving you nuts. Just ask her for more info about the things you want to know that'll put your mind at ease IMO.

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Thinking about living in a tiny lil "shed" makes me claustrophobic

My current house has a storeroom. About ten by ten by ten feet. Zero insulation, electricity, plumbing, litterbox. Just dirty. Might as well be living in a cardboard box

But I don't earn enough cash to pay for rent

And I am not healthy enough to stay awake long enough to get a side hustle

And I am too socially awkward for roommates

And I don't have enough job skills to get by with only one job. Not to say that everyone that gets by with only one job has job skills. Plenty of people that I know, that ear enough for rent, groceries, utilities, cars, children and etcetera, are just "smoke and mirrors". They have zero critical thinking skills. They don't know how to do anything particularly difficult. They don't speak proper English. They are bad at math and computers. But their personality is compatible with the company.


Exhausted all options a long time ago

Been wounded

You've mentioned that both of your parents passed away. (I"m sorry for your loss.)
Do you know if there was any money set aside for your care, or instructions given?
I know your sister has let you live with her, but was that her choice or in their Will?

I'm wondering if there might be some kind of trust fund or directive from your parents.
I realise I'm likely wrong, because you would have said it already.

Isabella

My sister told me that our parents left some cash in her name and that my sister is using that cash to pay for my expenses

Last year I earned twenty nine thousand bucks and that is not enough for room and board

My sister did not specify if our parents left written instructions in their Will

I have not read the Will and I don't even know if I have access to it either