Is wearing always the same clothes an Aspie trait?

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09 Oct 2023, 5:55 pm

I like black because it is a color that is not only elegant, but which escapes imposed social norms.

Black has its own personality, a personality that collects, incorporates within itself, it is like a cut, a gash that does not reveal light.

It has its own personality.


Black in physics is the color that absorbs all light and colors;


seeing this peculiarity from an emotional point of view therefore absorbs all emotions.


Black in our society is associated with mournful events, with death.


Black is the color of the night, of darkness, in a certain sense... of fear.

The person who prefers this color is generally mysterious, tenacious and with a strong sense of sacrifice.

Equipped with ironclad beliefs about society and the future, which can also lead to furious rebellions.

He always tries to amaze others and has the spirit of an eternal teenager.


The negative sides of these aspects are that they often lead to extremist attitudes, which do not provide the possibility of negotiation and discussion.


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09 Oct 2023, 6:41 pm

Could always wearing the same clothes be related to always ordering the same thing in a restaurant?

(I do both.)


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09 Oct 2023, 7:21 pm

Double Retired wrote:
Could always wearing the same clothes be related to always ordering the same thing in a restaurant?

(I do both.)

Yes, there are similar mechanisms in autistic people.

I always sit in the same place.

Consider that my mind would also be ready to change its position but it doesn't do so, it only does so when it is forced to not be able to choose not to change.


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09 Oct 2023, 8:25 pm

There is only one outfit I'm completely comfortable wearing anywhere/everywhere, so I bought many of the same. Whenever I try to shop for something different, all I can think is, "does this match the only thing I'm going to wear?"
Its a comforting part of my daily routine; its part of my identity. I don't have to think about what I'll wear, or whether it matches, or whether it works without forethought/preparation.

Sometimes I'll change it slightly but I mainly only wear one basic outfit. Its a work uniform, and a few people have asked what job I have to explain my wardrobe; when I told them what I do for a living, they agreed that the outfit made sense, so I don't think I'm too socially inappropriate.



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10 Oct 2023, 4:46 am

I like to always dress the same.

But I can't socially buy the same things I'm happy with in series.

Here they don't care about trends.

People are pragmatic.

They go about as they come, and are just neat and clean.

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Many autistics have immense difficulty changing.


I understand them all right.

I'm fine with who we are.

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I see so much poverty and very rich people.

I saw an accident between a Lamborgini and a Ferrari, they overtook a camper.


Some died.


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I like luxury but at the same time I find it disgusting.


People are dying of thirst (I see the statistics) and hunger in the world.

And I avoid doing useless things.

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We autistics replicate our comfort areas.

So we dress the same, we eat the same, we separate the foods (some: I do); we don't buy useless and expensive things, and we sit in the same place if we can, I do.

I lose everything: so and if I can give some advice: always put your things in the same place.

And write down everything you have to do during the day.

I set thirty alarms on my phone because I forget to do things.

Even though my memory is 10 times greater than NT.

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And I know how to dress very well (as Italians we have it in our DNA), but I don't do it, I buy things in series.

Black is very classy, I really like it,

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Here in the land of Lamborghinis and Ferraris and Ducatis where there are very wealthy people, no one wastes or throws away money.


Because it is clear that many do not even have the ease of making it to the end of the week to eat and pay bills.

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We help anyone: but here we exaggerate.


We welcomed thousands of Ukrainians and gave them everything, but I only saw them in the market.


We pay.

While an Italian pays everything including their consumption and rent and bills.


We also pay taxes.

Unfair.

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I understand war is terrible, but everything must be rationalized.

YES it helps but you ask.

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Here the people are truly exceptional and simple, the women walk around normal, without makeup and dressed casually.

Nobody judges them.


Unfortunately I would like to point out that for women in the world it is an immense inconvenience as the standards they have to comply with are insane.



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I like black a lot and the place in the restaurant or bar is always the same (when I can go there).


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I like riding a bike because it doesn't pollute too much (brakes and other tires pollute for example, in addition to production materials)

I worked in factory management and innovated everything.

They produced little now triple.

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I saw and thought like Temple Grandin (I think so, making the necessary distinctions, since she is brilliant).

For images.

I saw and understood and proposed.

I also worked as a worker, because no one even industrialists, their children work with workers to understand daily life.


Then they can manage immense capital.


In the meantime they study and do other things.


Then afterwards they forget all the suffering of the people who are ill.

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I saw Moratti stop to give what he had in his pocket to a homeless man.

He had 100 euros.

He didn't even look, he took the money out of his pocket and gave it.



He hit me.


Because she did it after not noticing him.

He walked fifty meters to give him the money.


She hadn't seen him at all before.


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Minimal: people are really in crisis.

He dies of hunger and thirst.

And treatable diseases.

And we Westerners don't care.

Then there are the poor because society is very unequal.

But no one thinks that we could all soon become homeless.


It doesn't take much.

Then again, there are now millions of people in crisis in Italy alone who were previously in dire poverty.

And we are a rich nation.


Some cities will be off limits to normals.

I see people buying objects worth 1 million euros....

They think they are better.
They are absolutely no better.

I like the different.


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10 Oct 2023, 1:22 pm

Huckleberry Finn wrote:
We autistics replicate our comfort areas.

So we dress the same, we eat the same, we separate the foods (some: I do); we don't buy useless and expensive things, and we sit in the same place if we can, I do.
I guess I look at things from a slightly (not greatly) different angle.

I want clothes that fit me, are compatible with my other clothes and my environment, and that are physically and psychologically comfortable for me. Once I've found something like that then it is simplest to just keep buying more copies of that—why would I waste time trying to figure out whether something completely different would also work for me?

When I go into a restaurant I want to get a good meal. If I am familiar with the restaurant then I have likely identified an order that is a good meal for me. If I know that ordering that will get me a good meal, why the heck would I order something else to see if it is also a good meal—I already know how to get a good meal there.

Once I've found a solution, it seems most efficient to stick with it.


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10 Oct 2023, 2:52 pm

Yes. I have my rotation of clothes in different colors. This being a long sleeve cotton top, flare bottom jeans, and my high-top converse. I love to add accessories to differentiate outfits and see what works.
I used to only wear a hoodie, timberlands, and skinny jeans even when it was 90° outside. I also think of it as not only comfortable to me, but also “iconic” and memorable to others! :D



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11 Oct 2023, 3:20 pm

Double Retired wrote:
Huckleberry Finn wrote:
We autistics replicate our comfort areas.

So we dress the same, we eat the same, we separate the foods (some: I do); we don't buy useless and expensive things, and we sit in the same place if we can, I do.
I guess I look at things from a slightly (not greatly) different angle.

I want clothes that fit me, are compatible with my other clothes and my environment, and that are physically and psychologically comfortable for me. Once I've found something like that then it is simplest to just keep buying more copies of that—why would I waste time trying to figure out whether something completely different would also work for me?

When I go into a restaurant I want to get a good meal. If I am familiar with the restaurant then I have likely identified an order that is a good meal for me. If I know that ordering that will get me a good meal, why the heck would I order something else to see if it is also a good meal—I already know how to get a good meal there.

Once I've found a solution, it seems most efficient to stick with it.


Yes, in fact, probably in my mostly broken English I wanted to write things very similar to what you wrote.

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I share them.

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Sometimes I tend to think that by not doing some things or forcing myself to do them differently I can improve myself.


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In many things it happened: Greater difficulties allowed me to face real problems that I encountered and I had to find both temporary strategies and non-temporary solutions.

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Dresses in serious: I think like you.

Among other things, here in Italy either people buy them immediately or later they change and you can't find them at all.

Example of the shoes that fit me after a wide choice of hours (I have a slightly crooked foot, it's not very noticeable, but one foot doesn't have the same shoe size as the other for example).

I had found the perfect shoes because they were 43 and 1/3 of the Adid...


I should have bought several pairs, but I didn't.

I was stupid.

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You know, I used to walk on tiptoe.

I stopped as an adult, when my feet hurt so much and I love walking.


a) Postural problem difficult to correct
(I would say extremely difficult)
b) Solution: what to do?

c) Idea and strategy.

d) I thought in a totally different way than giving up.

I paid for many lessons from a girl who was a dance teacher.

I worked so intensely on it, especially on physical training, that now (for quite some time) I walk like the others.

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I always look for change: I wouldn't have bet a dollar on this change, but I succeeded.

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In your answer there are most of the things I would do too.

If not all things.

I just have to be careful with food, another problem, because otherwise I'll be really sick.

So it's also a double problem to choose, if the recipes vary and they use garlic or something else I feel terrible.

But the list would be very long of foods that are very bad for me.


I also avoid refined or synthetic sugars.

Then here there are too many foods, people like to vary, but here you can really do it.

But if I feel good with a food, why change it?

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Clothes: Sometimes I dress very elegantly.

The funny thing is that I often repeat the same way of dressing the following day.

Identical.

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I must admit that the girls helped me a lot to get out of this loop of behavior.

They vary a lot.

I try to adapt when I can!


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11 Oct 2023, 3:34 pm

DoeEyes wrote:
Yes. I have my rotation of clothes in different colors. This being a long sleeve cotton top, flare bottom jeans, and my high-top converse. I love to add accessories to differentiate outfits and see what works.
I used to only wear a hoodie, timberlands, and skinny jeans even when it was 90° outside. I also think of it as not only comfortable to me, but also “iconic” and memorable to others! :D

It's really difficult for a girl because she has to change her clothes.

Then you know how to combine colors well and choose sizes and combinations of every detail.

I can not.

I ask though!

Socially there would be rules and the other girls, among other things, judge or evaluate people they don't even know.



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I think a person should dress how is best for them.

If he is well, it is right that he does as he feels like doing.

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Milan, I wasn't cold and I went around in a summer t-shirt (black) in the middle of January.

I assure you that it was very cold in the evening.

For the others it was absolutely like this.

For me no.

I felt so good.

I remember that I didn't even catch a cold.

Only one guy worked locally.

He came out dressed like me.

We started smiling.

The others walked around in warm clothes.

Then whatever: now after the bad adventure with a heavy Covid in 2019 I'm very careful to cover myself when it's cold.

Even if I don't feel the cold, I look at how others dress.


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11 Oct 2023, 3:37 pm

I hope so, otherwise I'll end up being diagnosed as a cartoon character as well.


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11 Oct 2023, 7:25 pm

It's not easy to get a diagnosis with us.

I imagine from you too.

They cost .

Mine derives from a scientific research I entered into.


In any case, the diagnosis is based on tests and observations of professionals.

So and in case you want it, rest assured they won't give cartoonish ratings.


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12 Oct 2023, 3:29 pm

I definitely think so! pretty sure that could fall into "strict routine".


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12 Oct 2023, 5:19 pm

I went out first.
I had sports shoes (the same ones I always wear, they are clean, and special in terms of workmanship)

I'm happy with it: why change?

I washed the shirt and it was very clean and I wore that, and it's the same one I've been wearing for 10 days.

Same sunglasses from a Japanese brand.

In Italy we have a huge share of the world eyewear market, I didn't choose one of ours, because they changed shape.

I was used to one shape and I chose that.

I wanted Zeiss lenses but they cost more than glasses!

I cut my hair: but I always go to the same person.

When I change it's a disaster: they make mistakes among other things.

Strictly black car.

Although I like red whether Ferrari or Alfa Romeo.

They differ by having specific patents.


A few days ago I took a trip.

I found the exact same shoes (in appearance) that I like.

Why change?

I tried them but they are not identical to the previous ones.

I said no to the sales assistant.

I'm sorry to say no to small shopkeepers.

I prefer very large stores where you try on what you want yourself.


Do you try it alone?

(Loud music in shops is very annoying.)

It takes me like three hours, because I perceive every detail from the shoe.

T-shirts?

I would always choose the same colors.

Except my partner hates them, so I avoid them, and it's black (Grrr!)

Then there are the things in clothes that I can't stand: labels, mega writing, fabrics that I can't tolerate on my skin (Wool is off limits for me)

I have many shirts: but I always choose the same one.

I risk throwing it to me.

Always wear the same clothes?

Oh yes (even though I have a wardrobe of several)

I won't buy anything again for at least a year.

I need glasses for driving: I'll have to change the lenses anyway, but I'll have to change them.

Zeiss are expensive but they are almost the best in the world.

But I haven't changed glasses or lenses for three years.

If there were no planned obsolescence I would still use my iPhone 4.

Although I notice that Android technology has better lenses and downloads slowly.


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