I will agree there is no such thing as accidental cheating. If you were too drunk to consent and someone decided to take advantage of you and have it with you, you were raped, you did not cheat.
If you met a lady at work and you thought you both were just friends but you never noticed she was hitting on you and you thought she was asking you out for coffee as friends than a date, you did not cheat for going out with her as friends because you misread the situation and her cues. An understanding partner would know this and not get mad at you for "accidental cheating."
And it's not just Dr. Phil saying drunk people cannot consent, other doctors say this too. That is where the "rape accusations" come from by women. But however, it's very difficult to charge the man with rape if you had something to drink and chose to drink because it's hard to prove in court you didn't consent and were not all there to make that choice.
https://jaapl.org/content/early/2022/12 ... .220032-21Only way to see it as rape by court of law in many states is:
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In many United States jurisdictions, intoxicated victims may be considered mentally incapacitated only if they have been administered alcohol or other substances involuntarily.
So that means if the person didn't choose to have a lot to drink because someone decided to spike their drink or something, then you are taken more seriously as the victim.
Can drunk sex ever be consensual:
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/can-drunk- ... originals/https://titleixlawfirm.com/how-does-int ... lt-claims/Quote:
To be sure, unconscious people can’t consent to sex. Nor can people who are so intoxicated that they can’t understand what they’re doing. But being so drunk that your judgment is impaired isn’t the same thing as being so drunk that you don’t know what you’re doing. People—even married couples!—have been having drunk, enjoyable sex since the beginning of time. Drunk people have also been making bad decisions—but conscious decisions nonetheless—since the beginning of time. These distinctions are often lost on college campuses, however. We’ve seen a number of cases where an accuser who’s been drinking—but is far from falling-down drunk—has initiated sexual activity, only to have the person who responded to those entreaties later be charged with sexual assault.
Drunk people who make the first move and then the person who accepts it and goes along with it has been the one to be charged with assault. But I notice it's only the men that are charged, never the woman if the man makes the first move and she goes along with it. Double standards.
I have heard of one case where a man and woman were having sex, man decides to pull consent and tells her to stop but she doesn't listen. She just holds him down and se weight more than him because he was this skinny man and she was stronger and had more weight on her so he couldn't push her off. Plus they were in a tight space in the back of the car where they were doing it, she got pregnant, had the child and he had to pay child support. Everyone thought this man was claiming rape to get out of child support and didn't believe him. The woman did not believe she raped him but believes he thinks she did so it upsets her. I have heard of other f****d up cases where a boy is sexually assaulted by female teen and she gets pregnant and now the kid has to pay back child support in back payments despite being under the age then. They call it sexual assault due to age difference so if a 16 year old has sex with a 13 year old, sexual assault. If the 13 year old was producing sperm and the girl got pregnant, the boy is forced to pay child support. The law doesn't care about age of consent if there is a baby involved. Doesn't matter if the kid was 15 and the woman was 22 and got pregnant. And the fact people think boys are lucky when they are victims of rape or sexual assault rather it was the teacher that groomed them or some other woman they met like their neighbor or their tutor or just someone at a house party and there were college girls.
You make some interesting points in your post.
It is my understanding that male rape victims are marginalized, often. Whether they are victims of a female or a male rapist - in either case.
23 Nov 2023, 5:16 am
His problem isn't solved. BUT I fiured I'd make it easier for him. I think he thought he thought he was ready for one and thats ok if he's not. Being his friend instead of his love interest might just make him feel more at ease. 
