Should I feel guilty for still living with parents?

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I seem to feel as if someone is in their 20s and living with parents it's fine, people will say but in their 30s, it's a big no no. That's another thing I feel I find myself comparing to other people, not just having kids but even having my own roof above my head. I seem to feel in my country, we are just obsessed with renting and buying our own place and buying our own cars and so on and seem to think in other countries, people are not as pressured by their peers as we are.

I sometimes think, why aren't we as tolerant of people beyond 25 or 30 who stay with parents like in other parts of Europe like in Italy or maybe in Asia like India. We have neighbours from India who have a son in his 30s who was still living with them until he got his own place last year.

I seem to think if everyone was still doing that then I maybe wouldn't have this self imposing voice pressuring me that I "must" do something when I'm aware of a certain age I am.

It is getting more common for people in the US to live with their parents for economic reasons

No

It depends. If you have a physical, financial, or life issue for which you need the assistance of living with your parents, no not at all.

If you could live on your own and could afford it, but it is just easier for you not to move out and instead let your parents take care of everything, then yes, maybe you should feel a little guilty.

I used to feel bad about having to still live at home with my mom, but I finally accepted that I have no choice in the matter. It's either living with her or in a group home and trust me when I say I refuse to ever live in a group home ever again.

You don't need to feel guilty about anything that makes your life more manageable.

No.

I moved out immediately after I left school, partly of my own volition to escape a dangerous living situation and partly because my mother wanted me out. It was definitely the best thing for my own health and safety at the time, but it was tough, looking back. If circumstances had been different and staying at home longer to save a little more money before leaving had been a viable option, I think would have done that and don't blame others for doing so. Especially not in this economy.

Whether hanging out at home for longer is for the best or not really varies and is individualized, I think. Ideally I hope you'll make decisions about what you'll do based upon your personal circumstances and not concerns about what others may or may not think.

I do think, though, that anyone living with parents into adulthood really should be trying to contribute to the household to the best of their ability during that time, whether financially or otherwise.

Nah.

Gotta do what ya gotta do whether for the support of family or financial/economic reasons.

I COULD live solo, but then I would be rent poor and not have the help/support for some things. It works out okay living in my parents house.

I don’t exactly have $2M for my own house so w/e F it.

With so many Indians and other immigrants from collectivist cultures here it’s much more normal for extended multi generation families to live together. And since housing is so expensive it’s become totally normal for adult children to live at home still/again. Times change.. my parents generation could move out with ease, not so much the same for people these days.

So, nah, don’t feel guilty. If you need the support or need to be there because life is too expensive elsewhere then w/e it is what it is just like so many other people these days.

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No. You shouldn't feel guilty that you still live with your parents. I moved out when I was 32.