I would consider that to be all the same meltdown.
That doesn't mean I'm minimizing it.
It means it's the same trigger, not yet resolved.
Regardless of if was two meltdowns or one big one, that sucks.
Sorry that's happening.
If your dad wasn't sick, you wouldn't have had to go.
I would remind them you weren't planning on it, and you can't do it.
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