IsabellaLinton wrote:
Never go to bed angry. Stay up until you sort out your arguments.
Nope, never. No one wants to argue with an insomniac. I don't think clearly when I haven't slept.
Cuddling up to my man, or missing him if we aren't together, is always more helpful than talking when I'm out of fumes.
I've been given this advice before. I think the theory is that being tired makes you less angry & more motivated to work things out.
I feel the same way you do. I also eventually started to realize that I need to step back from situations & arguments when I start getting very upset. Continuing to fight pushes me into meltdown mode & I can verbally lash out & say things the most hurtful ways possible. Sometimes I need to just shut-up, bite my tongue so to speak, & go along with whatever because it's not worth fighting about & not worth both of us getting angry & feeling like complete cr@p for upsetting each other. For someone with bad social skills I somehow seem to know the worst things to say to someone when I feel like I'm verbally attacked & want to hurt them back. Too bad this does not work the opposite way when I'm trying to be supportive & helpful instead I inadvertently sometimes really upset someone.