Hi everyone, I've been having issues with some of my neighbors ever since I had to move back into my parent's house. One of the rules was I wasn't allowed to talk to the neighbors. My dad would come home from work and I'd be trapped in my yard by one of my neighbors, and I'd try to tell them I wasn't allowed to talk to them but they just insisted and kept getting incredibly nosy. Once I started putting out bird food for the wild birds, they started trying to talk to me about bird watching. I don't understand why they can't read my body language and understand I do not want to talk to them. I think I have PDA autism because socializing is a demand I feel like I have no control over, so I avoid it. I stopped wanting friends when I was 8.
Immediately after back in moving in, any time I was outside my house my neighbors would try to talk to me and if I ignored them for any reason, they'd get more aggressive in their communications with me. I would regularly break down in tears begging my parents to make the neighbors stop. They're boomers, and always try to act like a second set of parents or something. It's hard to put into words, they treat me like I'm still a child but I am actually 30.
I had a falling out with one of the neighbors (they're sisters that live together) on facebook because she said that someone who was killed by the police deserved it. I unfriended her and she got really aggressive about it and kept asking why I couldn't be friends with someone that had different political views than me. She actually had the audacity to call my mother and tell her I was being rude/mean to her! I was 18 or 19. If I was outside at the same time as them, they'd try to stop me and tell me about a place that was hiring. I got fired from my second job ever and never completely recovered from it, and that's one of the reasons I had to move back in. I was not looking for a job, and they would make me not having a job their business. If they weren't stopping me to tell me about a job that was hiring, any time I went to my car they would say something snide like "going to work?" and I just do not understand how they can think that the way they've acted is okay.
It got to the point that the one I unfriended online would *run out in front of my car so I would have to talk to her.* Again, it was nothing important. Just them telling me of a place that is hiring. This has resulted in me feeling social terror any time I need to be outside during the day. I've cancelled important doctor appointments because I couldn't make myself leave my house because they're not the only nosy neighbors I have problems with.
I'm trans and after I started to visibly get facial hair, my next-door neighbors started harassing me. Forcing me to talk to them outside any time I went there. At one point any time I went into my backyard I'd hear their grandchildren yell "Hey lady" trying to get my attention. My garden died because I just could not make myself go outside anymore. I told my parents I was going to tell the people next door to leave me alone, and to stop harassing me. My dad threatened to kick me out of the house, and reminded me I'm not allowed to talk to them. But then if I'm rude to them he screams at me.
And then when I was 18 and fresh out of high school, another set of neighbors would stop me on my way to the car and ask me why I wasn't dating people or having sex and insinuated some very unsavory things about me because I had no interest in sex. I'm asexual, and my dad keeps telling me he thinks there's something wrong with me because I'm not dating or anything like that.
I really don't know how to handle my neighbors. It's gotten to the point I feel like I can't even exist in my own house because the next-door neighbors watch me and then tell my dad things I've been doing which makes me really uncomfortable. I am not comfortable with going to the police about this because I've already tried to get help and they just don't care.
02 Jan 2024, 5:01 pm
