I have a question about virtual autism groups

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09 Jan 2024, 11:33 pm

Is it weird that in a virtual aspie group I'm often the last one to speak yet in real life/in person I'm often quite loud? I feel in the virtual group I have barley anything to say, yet in real life I have too much to say.



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09 Jan 2024, 11:45 pm

Might it just be comfort level? Are you maybe more shy in the group than in person?


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09 Jan 2024, 11:58 pm

I find that trying to talk on Zoom (if that's what this group is) is very awkward for me. In-person interactions feel a bit more natural and it's easier to tell when to speak and it feels more spontaneous to respond to something that someone said. I'm actually pretty bad at both, unless it's one on one. But with Zoom it feels more like a series of speeches than it does like a conversation.

Also, maybe you could suggest a system in which people raise their hand when they want to talk and a facilitator calls on them in turn?



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10 Jan 2024, 12:24 am

It's hard to know what to say.



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10 Jan 2024, 3:32 am

I understand how that feels. Perhaps you don't have to say anything if you don't have anything that you want to say. You can just listen.



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11 Jan 2024, 8:16 am

catpiecakebutter wrote:
Is it weird that in a virtual aspie group I'm often the last one to speak yet in real life/in person I'm often quite loud? I feel in the virtual group I have barley anything to say, yet in real life I have too much to say.


I do not think so. I am the exact same way. It is difficult to write out what I want but I talk the hell out a topic given the chance. I also find it takes me time to process what I have read (same with speech) before I can type an answer unless it is very mundane. And I reword it many times in my head before it ends up in text. Sooo...I very rarely reply because the moment has passed. I thought it was just me really. Thank you for posting.



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11 Jan 2024, 9:41 am

I find it easier to talk to people in person than I do on Zoom. I don't have to repeat myself as much and as a result, I feel more comfortable.


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