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Mikurotoro92
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18 Jan 2024, 12:04 pm

I NEED to start going on dates but nothing has materialized yet!! ! :cry:

Even just kissing and intimacy is a vast improvement over how things are currently!

I am frustrated because I am stuck and stagnant kinda like trying to drive a car out of the mud if that makes sense?

How can I continue being patient and allow love to come to me instead of always relentlessly chasing it?

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20 Jan 2024, 7:41 pm

how long you been single now?



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20 Jan 2024, 8:49 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
how long you been single now?


Well, technically I am no longer "single" but I'm dating other men besides Jerry because he doesn't get out of prison until April and I am so anxious for dating, kissing and intimacy that it is hard to wait 3 more months when I can just get started now!

The question is...how do I convey that to a man?

He isn't a mind-reader so how do I tell him I want kissing and intimacy without coming across as "cheap" or "desperate"?

Like I am not just going to go to a man's house and start making out with him against the wall while he carries me to his bedroom! :oops:

I need to be more subtle


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21 Jan 2024, 10:01 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
how long you been single now?


Well, technically I am no longer "single" but I'm dating other men besides Jerry because he doesn't get out of prison until April and I am so anxious for dating, kissing and intimacy that it is hard to wait 3 more months when I can just get started now!

The question is...how do I convey that to a man?

He isn't a mind-reader so how do I tell him I want kissing and intimacy without coming across as "cheap" or "desperate"?

Like I am not just going to go to a man's house and start making out with him against the wall while he carries me to his bedroom! :oops:

I need to be more subtle

In fact, there could be situations in which such a lack of subtlety would be perfectly OK.

But in your case, you first need to know what it is you really want. Like how to decide which man's house you might want to visit and if you really want intimacy with that man. Which I don't think you know.


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21 Jan 2024, 10:29 pm

I thought your day program was going to teach you better communication skills, so you could engage in conversations with a wider range of people. Is that still happening?

As for the fantasy of being carried off to bed, please remember that's not realistic.
There's a lot more to it all than fairy tale romance and intimacy.


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22 Jan 2024, 7:28 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I thought your day program was going to teach you better communication skills, so you could engage in conversations with a wider range of people. Is that still happening?

As for the fantasy of being carried off to bed, please remember that's not realistic.
There's a lot more to it all than fairy tale romance and intimacy.

She has reported a couple of men in that day program showing signs of interest in her, but then nothing comes of that. I wish she'd tell us more. Then again, there's reason to think she's led "Jerry" to think she's waiting for him. That could get dicey.


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22 Jan 2024, 7:32 am

not a good sign for guys



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22 Jan 2024, 11:36 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I thought your day program was going to teach you better communication skills, so you could engage in conversations with a wider range of people. Is that still happening?

As for the fantasy of being carried off to bed, please remember that's not realistic.
There's a lot more to it all than fairy tale romance and intimacy.


Yes it's just taking a little while

I know but I still want to eventually experience sex and intimacy

Kissing is the farthest I have gotten!


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22 Jan 2024, 11:50 am

Kissing is the most intimate thing two people can do, if it's done right. ^


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22 Jan 2024, 11:53 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Kissing is the most intimate thing two people can do, if it's done right. ^


Yep and it has been SO long since I have been kissed on the lips :(

I miss that level of intimacy


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23 Jan 2024, 11:49 pm

Actually now I truly am beginning to move forward in my love life!! !! !!

My Day Program has created a plan to help me get to my main goal (marriage) starting with supervised dates with the men there

Then eventually I will be able to go to a man's house unsupervised which is when the real fun will start! :heart:

From there I will keep working towards engagement and getting married!


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24 Jan 2024, 12:37 am

Supervised dates with the men in your day program?

Do they do that for all the women?

Who pays for that? Taxpayers?


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24 Jan 2024, 12:43 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Supervised dates with the men in your day program?

Do they do that for all the women?

Who pays for that? Taxpayers?


They are doing it for me to help me out since I have been stuck in this rut and stagnant for FAR TOO LONG!! !

There is actually not much women in Day Program compared to men

I assume the guy would pay for this just like if was a regular unsupervised date


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24 Jan 2024, 7:28 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Supervised dates with the men in your day program?

Do they do that for all the women?

Who pays for that? Taxpayers?

Such a program would typically be run by a local non-profit with mostly volunteers, but would probably get some sort of subsidy from the county.


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24 Jan 2024, 7:53 am

I think it's great that things are working well for you.


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25 Jan 2024, 8:07 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Actually now I truly am beginning to move forward in my love life!! ! ! ! !

My Day Program has created a plan to help me get to my main goal (marriage) starting with supervised dates with the men there

Then eventually I will be able to go to a man's house unsupervised which is when the real fun will start! :heart:

From there I will keep working towards engagement and getting married!


Correction:

The dates are going to be unsupervised meaning that anything goes in terms of what we can get away with!

Well everything except full-on sex which would most likely happen either at his house or a hotel NOT in a public location

Instead I was thinking more like touching and kissing (make-out sessions) without sex

So I guess kinda foreplay but without any sexual expectations

Cathy the lady who helps us out said I can eventually spend the night at a man's house

She believes I am mature enough now to handle being alone with a guy at his house!! !

When that does happen I want to take precautions first like going to the OBGYN for birth control pills in case we both get swept up in the moment :oops:


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