7 Behaviors Typical of Covert Narcissism

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It seems like a lot of people can be “very sensitive to criticism.” Some of the problem that I have with videos like this is that they can make people think that everyone is a narcissist. It’s sort of like looking up medical symptoms online. Doing so often leads to erroneous conclusions. My mom, for instance, would watch a video like this and think that someone has narcissism if she thinks they have 1 or 2 traits.

Having dealt with some people I strongly suspect of covert narcissism:
There is a difference between a feeling of discomfort when someone criticizes you vs a complete agressive or passive-agressive outburst as a reaction to any criticism.

Everyone has some ego and in general it's normal and healthy - narcissism starts when this ego is so swollen and fragile that it impairs functioning and disables healthy relations with others.

Also, only one or two of narcissistic traits are not necessarily indicators of narcissism - there are a lot of other reasons why a person may overreact or show unusual insecurity in some situations.

I was thinking that sensitivity to criticism is a weird trait because it can come about through having an inflated ego and also by the opposite - by feeling so broken that any criticism just further reminds you of how worthless you are. It’s probably more pronounced if someone is going through a rough patch with their trauma. Of course, some people are just sensitive because, as my dad would say, that’s “how they are.”

Some people are just sensitive in general.
If being sensitive about oneself and about the rest of the world is roughly in balance, they are just sensitive people.

I too am a fan of the Psych2Go Youtube Channel. And I admit, yes, it's "pop psychology" - no substitute for consulting with a real psychologist. But even basic lists of behaviors which they provide, give one a starting point - to go investigate deeper.

• "7 Signs You're Emotionally Abusive To Others"
  
  
  
  
  1. You 'jokingly' insult people
     
  2. You dismiss others' feelings
     
  3. You like to embarrass others
     
  4. You like to push buttons
     
  5. You tell people their version of reality is wrong
     
  6. You use your emotions to get people to do what you want
     
  7. You use silence as a weapon
  
  
• "7 Types Of People You Should Never Trust" :
  
  
  
  
  1. People who spread secrets
     
  2. People who talk badly about others
     
  3. People who lack self-awareness (insensitive, Inconsiderate, Self-Centered)
     
  4. People who lack empathy
     
  5. People who cant make up their minds
     
  6. People who don't take no for an answer
     
  7. People who act differently around others