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29 Mar 2024, 12:50 pm

Do you think this guy makes some fair points as to why women will not date us?
https://youtu.be/ypZ0FwXsKtM?si=mU6XZn6m2KZ_8ZmE



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29 Mar 2024, 1:05 pm

No, I think his logic only applies to a small portion of women that most of us would be better off not even bothering to get to know.


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29 Mar 2024, 1:19 pm

Many people are willing to date someone who is on the spectrum. Many on WP are in or have been in relationships.



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29 Mar 2024, 1:20 pm

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Many women do date men who are on the spectrum. Many men on WP are in or have been in relationships.



I have never had a relationship :?


What I find weird is that I had my first kiss a very long time ago but never under any circumstances have I had sex.



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29 Mar 2024, 1:21 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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Many women do date men who are on the spectrum. Many men on WP are in or have been in relationships.



I have never had a relationship :?

Notice that I didn’t say everyone.



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29 Mar 2024, 1:25 pm

Sucks seeing old school friends on Facebook all get married



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29 Mar 2024, 1:25 pm

Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.



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29 Mar 2024, 1:26 pm

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Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.



Do autistic women have to pick up on verbal clues from men?



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29 Mar 2024, 1:26 pm

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Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.


I remember insisting a girl wasn't into me until after she shoved her underwear in my pocket. That was a clear enough communication. :lol:


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29 Mar 2024, 1:27 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.



Do autistic women have to pick up on verbal clues from men?


No, if you live where it is customary for guys to ask women.
You might be seen as hard to get but guys are used to that and may ask anyway.



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29 Mar 2024, 1:28 pm

Jamesy wrote:
BTDT wrote:
Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.



Do autistic women have to pick up on verbal clues from men?


Yes.
Autistic women are also prone to struggling to form both friendships and romantic relationships. This isn't a strictly gendered issue even if gendered expectations and orientation are factors.


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29 Mar 2024, 1:29 pm

BTDT wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
BTDT wrote:
Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.



Do autistic women have to pick up on verbal clues from men?


No, if you live where it is customary for guys to ask women.
You might be seen as hard to get but guys are used to that and may ask anyway.


They might, supposing the gent doesn't read it as disinterest, rather than hard to get.


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29 Mar 2024, 1:30 pm

I have trouble knowing if someone likes me too and usually assume they don’t unless they tell me.



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29 Mar 2024, 1:32 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
BTDT wrote:
Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.



Do autistic women have to pick up on verbal clues from men?


Yes.
Autistic women are also prone to struggling to form both friendships and romantic relationships. This isn't a strictly gendered issue even if gendered expectations and orientation are factors.



Valentine’s Day 2014 at a nightclub this girl and her friend approached me. Her friend said to me “my friend really fancies you do you want to dance with her”. Me being me I just stood there awkward and shy so they quickly moved on.


That sort of thing really does not happen often to guys does it because the expectations are we have to approach first



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29 Mar 2024, 1:32 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
BTDT wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
BTDT wrote:
Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.



Do autistic women have to pick up on verbal clues from men?


No, if you live where it is customary for guys to ask women.
You might be seen as hard to get but guys are used to that and may ask anyway.


They might, supposing the gent doesn't read it as disinterest, rather than hard to get.

Yeah, this. Dating seems to be difficult for all genders on the spectrum given our difficulties with social skills.



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29 Mar 2024, 1:36 pm

Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
BTDT wrote:
Most guys here don't pick up the non-verbal clues that suggest they should ask for dates.

THEY COULD BE SCREAMING and we wouldn't have a clue.



Do autistic women have to pick up on verbal clues from men?


Yes.
Autistic women are also prone to struggling to form both friendships and romantic relationships. This isn't a strictly gendered issue even if gendered expectations and orientation are factors.



Valentine’s Day 2014 at a nightclub this girl and her friend approached me. Her friend said to me “my friend really fancies you do you want to dance with her”. Me being me I just stood there awkward and shy so they quickly moved on.


That sort of thing really does not happen often to guys does it because the expectations are we have to approach first


Women are less likely to make the first move, but this is an admission it does happen, even to you personally.

Your non-response was likely taken as disinterest, as it would be if the tables were turned.


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