thoughts on financial aid from family

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I keep vacillating on this.

I don't have a very good relationship with them, I have been estranged for 5 years for
pretty good reasons that would become inflamed with contact.

However career wise I have been stuck in dead-end jobs and they could help
while I develop skills and a routine to move out of this underemployed rut.

I probably won't ask. It's too much bother.

If they are able and willing to help, it seems like it would be useful. I guess the question is would they expect something in return? And is it something you would be able and willing to give? Would they want to control your life?

Or are you just worried that you would feel guilty and indebted?

I have been disabled by ME/CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) for most of my adult life and my family has always helped me, though I have lived frugally most of my life and didn't want to have a lot or more than I needed.

Yeah I suppose last time they immediately started pressuring me in a lot of ways
- dangling aid like a carrot
- creating stress through uncertainty
- guilt tripping to do lots of stuff.

I doubt this dynamic would change much. On the whole they aren't willing to learn enough about autism to change.