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Is anyone else losing track of all these quotes?

^ Most of the time a simple "Post Reply", addressing the post above like I did here, is sufficient but people just seem to click "Quote" instead until the quote limit is reached - which I'm considering reducing.
It would also help if the quoted post was edited to contain only what's being responded to but that too seems a goal too far.

Once upon a time the number of quotes was unlimited and nested quotes up to 15+ deep were quite common.

That would be a good idea cornflake. It is very confusing to see someone say fnord wrote that jakki wrote that auntblabby wrote etc. Probably around 2-3 would be good, since you shouldn't be quoting three people in one post

Done - the quote limit is now three posts, but I'll keep it under review for a while.

Kids and internet forums sure are something

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I first want to say that I'm really sorry that you are dealing with a LOT of things at once. While I can't fully understand your current situation, I can relate to the feeling of loss of control. There's a lot happening, you're having trouble processing what is happening, you want to escape to a better situation. I think that is something people have always done. You can zone out for a bit and not think about what life is going to be like for an x amount of time.

I want to ask, why dream about trying to do something instead of trying to do it yourself. Like your example with the birdhouse - why dream about constructing a bird house when you can try to build one yourself in real life? Sure it won't turn out perfectly but you are actually doing something, in reality. You are working with your hands, you're learning the measurements, you're learning how to use the tools. You can feel accomplished trying to do something rather than just...dreaming about it.

I don't think your family hates you.

It's rough being a teenager. And going through a pretty traumatic death. Are you in therapy at the moment?

Branching out topics is common in this forum. And nests of quotes from varying usernames.

As for wall of texts, I tend to write long but I usually space them out.
It's just that my problem is more to do with sentence construction...

And my *cognitive profile* language processing issues; not because English is not my first language.

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Enda3362 that's exactly it. A lot of my lucid dreams are extremely vivid, and I have no control. This tends to cause those nice dreams, to turn into a lucid nightmare. I just want to be able to control the dreams, so I can stop the nightmares. As for honeytoast, most of the time, I use lucid dreaming to do things I can't do in real life. For example, I went sky diving once in a dream, which I'm pretty sure I legally can't do yet, once I went racecar driving, and once I teleported into a video game. Sure, its not the same, as its just your brain trying to envision what it would be like in real life, but its still a lot of fun!

One of the most common theme in many autistic reactions is panic and fear over lack of control and uncertainty.

Which creates some sort of loop -- your lack of control induces fear, your fear will manifest the nightmares, nightmares amplifies the fear, and unable to get rid or end of the nightmares adds into the fear more...
This is somehow true in the waking life.


But that's the thing...
The common reaction of many autistics is fear, especially during meltdowns, when they lack control.

Lack of control implies uncertainty and it's common for autistics to be intolerant of uncertainty.

I do not experience fear and panic over losing control. Not even while melting down.
On the contrary, it gave me a destructive yet not very voluntary break from many things than the feeling of helplessness.


My meta emotions, too, mattered -- to many, it's in synch with fear but to me, it's fascination and vigilance of the experience.

Or, boredom, frustration or annoyance, because I judged the feeling as 'my brain, acting inappropriately at the wrong time and place'.
But I don't try and stop fear itself; but trying to figure why the reaction...

..Because I don't exactly associate myself with my body, mind and emotions; I consider both bits of what makes me, the human -- is not all of me nor is me-self-me; only that one influences the other.

And my own reaction to uncertainty is different from that. I do not have the same intolerance and anxiety towards uncertainty.


A common theme I see in many autistics during fear is flight, freeze or fawn.
My fear reflex is almost always fight. I don't know if that's relevant or not.
I do not deal with the fear and anxiety cycles because I tend to end them rather quickly...

My body and mind and feelings (thus body and brain) could react in fear all they want; while me-self-me conscious 'me' somehow 'knew better' than to panic with them and take it as some sort of information and reason with that reaction...

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What I meant was, in my dream I LITERALLY have no control. Most of the time, when I have a lucid dream, its like I'm a prisoner in my own mind, basically. I'm there, but I can't control anything about the dream. And a lot of times, that either causes panic, or boredom, to the point where I'm in a lucid nightmare. Although ironically, I've actually became friends with a few of my nightmare characters. One of then was Freddy Fazbear, but one time, when he was in my nightmare, I simply turned around and asked him why he was chasing me. We ended up having a pretty nice conversation. But that usually doesn't happen in my lucid nightmares.

Notice what's the difference from that dream from other lucid nightmares other than the event itself?

Different thoughts? Different emotions? Different sensations?

Can you try that again with different characters then? Question them?

Or, maybe, a factor the night before bedtime? Something happened during daytime?

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