IsabellaLinton wrote:
MatchboxVagabond wrote:
Beefcake calendars have existed for quite a while, so clearly some portion of the female population does like to see that.
If you’ll read the OP again, you’ll see Kitty didn’t ask to see any men topless or with partial nudity, and nor did she like it or consider it beefcake. It made her uncomfortable.
If it’s not asked for privately then it’s not appropriate.
Nudie magazines and porn have existed for quite a while too, so clearly some portion of the male population does like to see that.
It doesn’t mean women should be topless on dating sites, and the same goes for men.
Yeah, I agree with this assessment. If women aren’t topless on a platform, I don’t think men should be either. The double standard is cringe. A couple guys showed off their abs to me offline when I was young - pulling up their shirt and displaying their washboard abs with a smug facial expression as if I gave a f**k.
I considered telling them that they should spend less time in the gym and more time in the library, but I decided against it. (Obviously, they can spend their time however they like; I was just snarking. It’s what I do when I’m confronted with idiotic behavior which, at times, may even be triggering or make me uncomfortable on some level.)
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