I'm probably doing something wrong

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My IQ was tested around 147 back when I was 13 years old. But people who are way less intelligent are getting what they want while I cant. So is it social skills, continuous effort, having mental health or just luck, that makes the difference? I feel like I'm missing something

I think a lot of people feel that way, especially folks on the spectrum. I think some of all the factors you mention play a part, but sometimes it really is just luck. All you can do is try as well as you can, and also try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Feeling bad about yourself is not helpful and can make things even harder.

If you can't get ahead, go sideways.

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Bee gave you some great advice.

I don't know if it'll make you feel better, because based on your posts you seem to put a lot of stock in it, but IQ is only one measure of intelligence. It really just measures how good you are at solving puzzles. It's not a great metric for anything else in your life and it definitely doesn't indicate your worth or where you should be in life. It's okay to be disappointed with where you are in life, but dwelling on it is dangerous. Maybe instead of focusing on comparing yourself to other people, focus on what small steps you can do to get to a better place for yourself. Sometimes a small thing can make a big difference. Like giving yourself some grace, or taking time to rest. Getting your mental health to a good place is very important. I would suggest you focus on that first.

Good luck and hope you feel better

I asked the same question by the time I became an adult.
That I should have more than my peers. Yes, I'm an egotistical greedy.


And I already found the answers to my own case after years as a working adult;

Unsolved health and physical issues mixed with sensitive interoception, while being unaware of how much the reproductive cycle is affecting me, that one lifelong emotional issues and unprocessed crap, and that I did not seem to recover from puberty itself; just about everything that causes executive dysfunction -- which is also the basis of why I lived as if I've been repeating the same problems every other week while working full time, and there were no consistency, no continuity.

Just broken streaks to restart, over and over every other week.
While playing to my own weaknesses, not my strengths. And negligent self care. On top of said unsolved issues.

Also, because I hate business.

Yeah, you can examine your own sentiments over certain aspects of living in the modern society, your circumstances and habits out of necessity when you're young then detrimental to you now.
If one can't learn more of something good, then unlearn something bad.

I say, as long as one has unmanageable executive dysfunction, their IQ doesn't matter much and they cannot afford their respective imbalances in having lower EQ, AQ, SQ, and even certain learning disabilities etc. without a reliable work around executive function.


But yeah; go sideways.
Or go non-linear.

Or maybe re-examine what you want in life; one can question why one is convinced of certain desires.
Many of which I found are imaginary persuasions, are just echoes of desires from the people around me.

And yeah, some of it are luck.
And I always considered myself a lucky person overall; and I don't even have to be an cheerful optimist to proclaim myself to be.


It's already been said that many other NDs questioned these things, felt the same ways.

Especially if they're diagnosed late or that they thought they have this one factor that supposedly made someone succeed more than others.

Some had to accept it too soon that they had to limit themselves, settle with less, make the most with less.

Some had to try harder, some did it alright and it was worth it, and some just became broken in the process...
Or both.


Though, in the grander scheme of things, there is no such thing as a 'wrong decision'; that's just something a person decided themselves -- or someone else did.

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