He wants me to move in but I can't

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I can't just move into a guys house after only meeting him 3 times even if it will be free. He really wants me to though. I don't know if this is bad. I'm bad at dating.

I would never move into someone's house after only meeting them three times. I think your instincts are right.

If you have any doubts, DON'T!!

It is your intuition telling you that something ain't kosher.

Trust your intuition.

That's nuts and really suggests either his judgment is terrible or his motives are questionable. Either way, he's probably not a good candidate.

It does sound premature, hence possibly dangerous, but either way remember rule #1
"People are weird"
It is possibly legitimate...
Is there a slow motion test you could do? Do you have friends or family for backup?

Not to be discriminatory or anything, but considering your post history of discussing some of the serious mental health issues that you experience, I can only surmise that your boyfriend will be of a similar level of functioning, in which case I can't see anything good out of two people living together who cannot support themselves with basic independence?

You will likely more secure with your own family, even if living with family does have its drawbacks.

The grass is not always greener on the other side.

This doesn't sound promising, but perhaps if you provided more detail, it could be seen that there's some aspect to this situation that makes it worth considering. Although you said you can't do it anyway, so why think about it?

I wont move into someone's house after months and months of meeting. I've never moved into anyone's house actually. Moving in after three meets is extremely quick

I moved into somebody's apartment a couple of months after meeting them. But it made sense as we had just gotten engaged.

It reminds me though of how with my 2nd "serious" girlfriend, after the first night I spent with her, I simply just slept at her apartment every night thereafter, because honestly I had no reason not to. I wanted to wake up in the morning and see her next to me, and I can reasonably assume she felt the same way. Although I did officially move in there at the beginning of the Fall semester, then at the end of the semester I moved out. I was a dick in those days.