Feel like nobody knows me well enough

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Been working at home Depot for over four years and counting

Feel like nobody at work (or anywhere else) *really* knows me

Since this is haven, I will keep most of my thoughts to myself.

Save to say that I'm sorry you feel this way sfbum and I can absolutely relate to that feeling that nobody really knows you. I have always felt that there is a glass wall between me and others that prevents any real connection.

It is common enough for autistic people to experience social isolation, but that doesn't make it feel any easier, subjectively, for those of us who have suffered differing levels of social isolation.

I am sorry to hear of your plight, sfbm.

those annoying lil dips**ts that have the nerve to call themselves "friends", don't believe the slightest thing i say, just b/c they do not want to believe it. when i say something, they often do not hear, care, understand, believe, or remember what i said. they do not pay attention when i talk, but they talk too much and too enthusiastically. cory's known me since 2012 and he still doesn't understand/accept that i do *not* like getting called "smart". that's judgmental and condescending, i think. besides, everyone is "smart". it means nothing, and it's so f*****g manipulative. also, "dispositional versus situational". i *hate* it when ass holes have the nerve to jump to conclusions about my personality/character just b/c they interacted with me a couple times for a couple minutes.

I'm sorry you're dealing with that situation.

That said, it's hard to get to know people who are naturally stand-offish and contemptful towards others. Getting to know people generally requires them to be open and willing to expose potential vulnerabilities.

Unfortunately this means if someone is stand-offish out of a fear of rejection they might find themselves in a vicious cycle of not letting people get close, only to feel rejected anyways because no one gets close, only to double-down on not letting people get close, etc, etc.

Not that any of that insight has helped me significantly improve my own stand-offish and aloof tendencies.