Are we supposed to have lots of experiences before 30s?

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I seem to think since the end of the pandemic, I've felt the need to make up for lost time because for two years we didn't go abroad to places, go out to many places in this country and going to social events and gatherings. I had two days out one year to some wild animal parks. I went to Naples and Copenhagen almost a year ago. But I feel like the only one doing these things now while my peers seem to be settling down, starting families and so on and were doing all the things I'm doing now when they were in their 20s. That may sound ridiculous as I see people of all ages travelling but it just feels like the norm for every 20+ year old to do especially going to sunny beach places like benidorm or Thailand which don't appeal to me.

The thing is with me is that I didn't start doing yearly times abroad until I was I think 27 although I was 25 when I went on a cruise to Amsterdam and Antwerp with my dad and stepmum. I didn't really feel confident about travelling in my early 20s compared to later. My art class went on a trip for a few days to Amsterdam but I didn't go nor did I go to New York with my business studies class at sixth form for the same reason.

I also didn't start working in a paid job at 18 and didn't properly do so until 26 although I had done voluntary work for a few places at 21 before uni.

On too fast

One thing I don't like is time moving too fast. I seem to think it's the thing I dread and I want to live in the moment and not think about things too far ahead. When the pandemic was going on, I was worried it was going to go on forever and hated that things were getting delayed because of it and wanted it to end. I can't seem to get over the fact that we didn't go abroad, go out more, and socialise in 2020, 2021, 2022 and 2023 despite having gone to see my grandparents in France in 2023, went abroad to Naples and Copenhagen in 2024 and visited two zoos in 2021 and another in 2022.

I've complained about lost time in my early 30s, while my mum reassures that she lost a bit of her late 50s, her partner lost two years of his early 40s, my sister lost two years of her late 20s and so did everyone else of different ages.