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Claratess
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15 Apr 2025, 8:00 pm

Hi everyone,
I’m new to Wrong Planet. I’m an older adult on the spectrum (diagnosed with Asperger’s), and I work in psychiatric care, which I’m deeply passionate about. While I connect well with my patients, I’ve always found it difficult to connect with others on a personal level, especially in social settings.

Social situations can be challenging for me. I tend to be direct, which isn’t always understood, especially in environments focused on small talk or office drama. I often feel out of place and have struggled with feeling overlooked or invisible.

I’m here to find a space where conversations are more intellectually and emotionally enriching, where people value depth and thoughtful exchange. I’m not here for psychological advice or support—just looking to share experiences with those who understand what it’s like to think and feel a bit differently, without judgment.

Looking forward to connecting with like-minded people.



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15 Apr 2025, 8:05 pm

Welcome to WP! I think you can find some kindred spirits here.


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15 Apr 2025, 10:00 pm

Welcome to WP Claratess ..Hope you can find Forums or Threads that enjoyable for you and Others here .


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15 Apr 2025, 10:02 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!


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16 Apr 2025, 12:54 am

Hi Claratess and welcome to the planet



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16 Apr 2025, 1:50 am

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

I think you are in good company here, there is no shortage of highly opinionated Aspies on this platform hahaha. I think as a rule people with Autism are deep and introspective thinkers, I haven't met very many shallow people on here.

The great part about this site is that it is kinda obscure, meaning that we hardly ever get trolls and on the off chance that we do they are dealt with quickly.

I look forward to reading your posts in the future.

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16 Apr 2025, 8:25 am

Claratess, Welcome to Wrong Planet.

You wrote that you have Asperger's Syndrome (Aspie for short). That is a condition that I also have.

It is hard for us to fit into society because we are different. We generally do not talk much. We say few words but they are very direct. But I am an old Aspie, a 76 year old Aspie and I have learned a lot during my journey through life.

To gain more understanding about humans, one must look deep inside our skulls. Our brain has two sides, one on the left side of our skull and the other on the right side. They are separated by a small amount of interconnecting tissue. Humans are a very advances species.

So if you are interested in exploring this subject a little deeper, I will lead you down a rabbit hole. It is Jill Bolte Taylor, PhD. She wrote two books. These were “My Stroke of Insight” and “Whole Brain Living”. She had suffered a massive stroke at around age 35. She also produced a very interesting TED video.


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16 Apr 2025, 6:19 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet! :)


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16 Apr 2025, 8:15 pm

Thank you all for the warm welcome! I did watch the video that I think his name was Jimmy posted and found it to be very interesting. I definitely find myself more “current minded” I know that it is foolish to attempt to focus on the future because as humans we suck at predicting what is going to happen and try to stay out of the past because it can be very difficult to re-experience negative emotions. I do find myself feeling lonely, misunderstood, and lacking real connection with others. I have observed that most of the “Normie’s“ have superficial connection with each other and I find that quite boring. I wonder if true connection with another human is possible without it being superficial. What do y’all think?



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17 Apr 2025, 4:11 am

Welcome, Claratess! I believe that true connection is possible. I have been lucky enough to find a few friends with whom I really connect deeply, people who are okay with skipping the small talk and getting straight to the point, which in my case is some philosophical questions about systems and structures. Knowing that I am autistic has made me realise that I am very dependent on people being willing to enter my world. Some do it voluntarily :)
And my 'closeness' is not the 'closeness' of others. So I prefer anti-biographical friendships, which means that I have friends that I don't know anything about their 'everyday life'. My connection is based on intensity rather than intimacy.
And another thing: I am happy to be connected (because I have had years and years of just being strange and alone) - but I also find it very, very exhausting.



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17 Apr 2025, 7:44 am

Claratess wrote:
I wonder if true connection with another human is possible without it being superficial. What do y’all think?


I am 76 years old and over my lifetime I have had two very close friends. They were a little bit like me. But they were also a little different. These friends have passed away. But they were lifetime friends. One friendship lasted over 50 years. It was like we were two kids playing in a strange world around us, exploring all that life had to offer.

Of the two books by Jill Bolte Taylor, PhD. The one called “Whole Brain Living” is extremely unique. In the book she describes the four persons that exist within the human brain.


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