Worried I'll be the only one left behind

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I work in a shop that also sells toys for kids and therefore going to get parents in with kids and didn't have these thoughts when I started. I don't know if that's because I knew people in their mid/late 20s didn't all have kids or were married whereas five or more years later it feels like a lot of people are. It's almost like the moment you hit 30+ it feels like people rush things before the next decade. I know that sounds ridiculous but that's how it feels. I keep visualising being that person older still without a partner because I seem to think I look at people in their 50s and 60s now and that the vast majority have grown up children and grandchildren and only a tiny few will be single.

There will be people who are single at that age but they're few and far between

It's a really difficult situation you're in and I understand it in a way because I've been through similar

Like I resigned myself to never getting in a relationship with a man because I didn't want the baggage of exes and children and like you say this is almost impossible after a certain age

However I did find a man like this. But that in itself came with its own set of issues

I know it's probably more difficult for a guy to find a woman in this situation but it's not impossible

You could keep on looking and waiting for ever or you could try and compromise...but I know that's not what you'll want to do either

Yes it is a very hard place to be in!! !

I was once there too, seeing all my friends and neighbors get married & start families while I was still single without any boyfriend/husband prospects on the horizon...

BUT!

I finally met someone!

Sometimes all it takes is patience and perseverance @chris1989

Well you won’t be left behind. I’ll most likely be a 50 year old, 60 year old, 70+ year old virgin who’s never been on a first date. Women (both NT and autistic) don’t want to date an ugly and autistic man. Unfortunately that’s what I am.

Yes..60+ years ,, no worries on children , not interested , Might have at one time , but seen so much dark things in
this world , think, it would be harmful to a child . To have one in these particular days .Quite content , with the odd BF
on occasion.But I am usual upfront with any new friends that come along , If they have any other ideas.But am still hopeful . Maybe someday will have me a permanent Partner , If they were like minded .

There's nothing wrong with being concerned about such a prospect. Worrying is natural after all. Truthfully, I found that trying too hard to alter such a thing made it more difficult to achieve. I was able to find a girlfriend and go on to marry her simply from living life and meeting naturally. There is indeed a life that people consider normal, but how one gets there does not hold that limit. Just keep your chin up and your mind open to what possibilities life may send your way.

Regardless, you can at least take comfort knowing that this widower doesn't intend to find another and you won't be the only person alone.

The thing is with me, I aspire to meet someone and see how it goes but I seem to think I'll carry on being in my own company like I've done through my 20s and into my 30s but I seem to feel like I've got to stop doing it as much because if I am saying I want or aspire to meet someone then I need to do it sooner because I'm thinking people by their 30s will eventually stop being single and will be taken but I still feel like a part of me wants to carry on without any urgency.