"please don't hurt me"

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Head Cashier Angela called tattle tale tom and me to the Contractor door for loading assistance.

Tattle tale tom and I got to the customers car and loaded mulch. "I got it. Go ahead." Tattle tale tom said, so I left the scene.

Thirty seconds later tattle tale tom said on the walkie talkie "can I get someone else out here? (My name) Just walked away".
So I said "you just said 'i got it. Go ahead.' ".
"You completely misinterpreted everything I said. This gentleman said he was injured and I said 'i got it. Go ahead.' "
"I'm autistic "

I ran back there. "I'm autistic. Plenty don't hurt me "
"You're ok "
He and I loaded a scaffold. Not heavy, just large.
I picked up a bag of mulch and he held his hands out like he was offering to hold the other end but I picked up the whole thing.

when tattletale tom called on the walkie talkie to get someone else out there, good thing my walkie talkie was still on (i was about to go to lunch - fifth hour), and good thing supervisor angela was not at work. otherwise maybe she would've had the nerve to cross examine/scrutinize/micromanage my worthless to corpse to death, for the upteenth time.

(rolls eyes)

i've never said "please don't hurt me" before and i wasn't thinking about it, but it just kind of slipped out.

tattletale tom did not act the slightest bit surprised that i said "please don't hurt me." nor did he struggle with coming up with an answer: "you're ok".

it just does NOT sit well with me, that i have to beg coworkers "please don't hurt me", b/c maybe that should just go without saying. what next, do i have to be more specific? (no punching, kicking, boxing, wrestling, spanking, caning, paddling, beating, or anything like that). tattletale tom 180# and 56 years old. if he can't control himself, i can't control him either.

Maybe I have been overreacting lately. Especially since, on Saturday, Angela d and Angela w had the nerve to make a scene because lot attendant johns blue Subaru wasn't where it usually is. Makes me afraid of getting micromanaged and made redundant

Tattle tale tom barked at me a couple of times but that was a few years ago. He did not do anything illegal. He did not touch me either

me thinks Tom maybe looking looking to control...the situation ? ...... You possibly ..?

Yes using phrase dont hurt me . Sounds alittle desperate? And perhaps heading the situation off, and if uou feel up to it , expose tjis guys tactic to control another person.. Telling her exactly what he said at the time . That you moved on to help others ...Then said exactly ,what he did over the radio, when he dismissed you for the situation... Not so much being a tattletale , but letting the Supervisor know, what this guys game is ..? Incase he tries to use it again with someone rlse , Perhaps he might learn to be more specific in his meaning..( better communication skills)..? just a Thought .

Can you look into a new job? Seems like kind of a toxic work environment...like maybe you have overreacted a little, but kind of seems a certain co-worker(tattle tale tom) perhaps enjoys trying to push you to that point. But you don't really have someone over them you could talk to, because they will take tattle tale toms side.

I straight up quit my last job because a co-worker and our supervisor started trying to pull that kind of crap on me. My boss initially tried to say 'are you sure, like i'll go talk to them' and next time I saw him interacting with them they were all just making friendly so then I reiterated, 'You know what just terminate my employment I am done with these two and I quit.

So, it might not hurt to start looking at some other job listings, set up some interviews...and see if you can get hired on somewhere else and quit your current job. May be easier said than done but maybe worth a try.

matchbox and sweetleaf

i've been applying for jobs for a long time.

zero offers.

got a bad personality and bad work history.

some internet articles say that now is a difficult time to be applying for jobs.

other jobs could be worse in different ways and there is no way to know until after you start working there.

besides, "toxic" people work @ plenty of companies.

I think your coworkers & managers have it out for you & are treating you like sh!t so you'd quit. If they fire you the company might have to pay for your unemployment benefits & considering your disabilities you'd might be able to sue for discrimination & wrongfull termination. Basically they want your job to be hell so you'd reach your breaking point & suddently quit & they can avoid any backlash or scrutiny.

Nick

Constructive dismissal

Last year home Depot drastically cut hours for part time employees

This year, I've gotten almost my full availability worth of hours
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I still think that tattle tale tom should have gotten made redundant 5/2022 at "the drywall incident". But that's home Depots choice, not mine

Constantly outnumbered outsmarted overpowered

And he hasn't micromanaged me since September 2023 or barked at me since May 2022, but he didn't apologize either. And if/when he resorts back to his old ways or worse, there is nobody for me to tattle to.

Vulnerable and fragile

He's helped me lift a lot of merchandise lately, but any old monkey could do that

He's 180 pound male, 55. He's "in" with a lot of people, some of them have termination authority.

I'm 5'3, 110#, FTM, 42. I am not "in" with anyone

Regardless of what kind of wrong things he did, the boss might always take his side because he's having sex with the boss

"Orgy"

Maybe I was overreacting

From his perspective, it did appear that I "just walked away". He didn't physically injure, or threaten to injure me, or touch me. He didn't overreact either. He offered to help me lift the mulch. He was nice enough.

Tattle tale tom did not "make" me beg him to successfully refrain from physically injuring me

Tattle tale tom and a sensitive side and I see why he has plenty of cronies

3 years ago he used to bark at me a lot, but barking is not illegal. He was doing his "best". (Rolls eyes)

Been thinking about him A LOT. Maybe getting a crush on him

42 years old. Haven't had a crush since 23

Between October 2020 and May 2022, he had the nerve to bark at me a lot

Between August 2022 and September 2023 , he had the nerve to micromanage me a lot

But that's not illegal or against SOP

Furthermore (former) front end supervisor RA already dealt with it, and I have no "right" to deal with it

(Rolls eyes)

Home depot hires convicted felons

There's nobody I could talk to about it because he hasn't physically injured me thus far.

Anything could scare anyone. Anything could make anyone uncomfortable. Doesn't prove the "thing" is bad or wrong per se

And it is not his fault he weighs 70 pounds more than me.

He just seemed so calm. Maybe people often beg him to "please don't hurt me"

tattletale tom has not, thus far, physically touched or injured me. there is nobody to tattle to and nothing to tattle about. if tattletale tom were to have physically injured me, i would have injuries and it would have been on videotape. cops and security constantly on "standby" at home depot, they don't really do anything besides stand around flapping their traps and on the phone. and they haven't gotten made redundant thus far. besides, "everyone has subconscious biases". tattletale tom is "in" with plenty of precious lil "people", including some cops, some security, and some rodents that work for home depot and have termination authority.

i've been afraid of tattletale tom for about four years, since he started making comments about how i wasn't doing anything. he failed to mention that Nichelle and Adam Smith also not doing anything. and he SURE had no problem with Lazy Boy Steve, who wasted half his shifts sitting on the picnic bench.

maybe i should just start wearing diapers to work b/c it appears to me that a disproportionate number of employees, day laborers, and customers, act like they have plenty of felony convictions and psychiatric diagnoses.

5/2022, at "the drywall incident", former Supervisor RA didn't make tattletale tom redundant. i think she should have, but it doesn't matter what i think b/c i don't have termination authority.

thinking about that makes me wanna puke.

tattletale tom is about (56m) and i am (42ftm). it is possible he's changed, but maybe the second i do something bad/wrong, he will revert back to his old ways or worse. i don't know. nobody is perfect. there is nothing great about me and i am not good at anything. i am certainly not good @ putting rocks into cars, social relationships, or emotional regulation, or having conversations, or anything like that.

There's nobody I could talk to in person about tattle tale tom. Some Mandated reporters act like the correct answer to "how are you doing?" Is "perfect". All other answers are wrong and the punishment for a wrong answer: fifty one fifty.

Tattle tale tom has not physically touched or injured me thus far and I have been working there for four years and seven months and he has been working there longer. Micromanaging coworkers and barking at coworkers is not illegal. Cops on "standby" at home Depot but there is nothing to tattle about. Besides everyone has subconscious biases and maybe tattle tale tom having sex with the cops. Last year, tattle tale tom did waste a lot of time and energy flapping his trap at Officer DEH. Officer DEH hasn't come back lately. Thank Buddha. He was so f*****g annoying.

The fact of the matter is that I have been uncomfortable around tattle tale tom ever since he started barking at me for not doing enough work. On the other hand, it's the parking lot and any convicted felon could come to my work station and I don't have a moral "right" to stop them. So WTF ever

Makes me want to puke

Tattle tale tom has no idea what kind of impact his micromanagement has had on my health.