Are you supposed to have lots of experience by 30 ?

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I seem to ridiculously feel as though by the time someone is 30, they are "supposed" to have had lots of sex, parties, drinking, some drugs and so on under their belt. I'm still currently a virgin, I've hardly ever gone to a nightclub and have only had a drink on occasions and drink responsibly and I've never taken drugs (I only take prescribed antidepressants for anxiety) or smoked a cigarette because it makes you "cool". I knew earlier that smoking was bad for health and so never followed the Joneses to do it. But with other things as though if you reach that age, you are have somehow "wasted" all the fun in the one life you have.

I keep having this notion that somehow by your 30s you are "passed it". I don't know if that's the case when the media talks about celebrities. As I said in another thread before, I seem to worry that people like Harry Styles, Justin Bieber and so on are "passed it" because of other popular artists in the charts.

Yes, you should have 30 years of experience by the time you turn 30.

That kind of "experience"?
Pff, no. Those are pseudo-maturity nonsense.

Drinking and smoking, drugs and sex; those are just coping mechanisms to numb whatever BS they're covering up.
And the idea those things are cool sounded like a naive middle schooler who never got in with the so called cool kids or a foolish teenager who never moved on.

I just turned 30 last week and I got just happier.
Because to me, turning 30 is less about looking back and more about looking forward.


But sure.
I spent most of my 20s dealing with crap that should've been prevented, and got lucky that I got my lifelong wish of ridding of it.
Still wasted my 20s when I shouldn't, all because people are ignorant.

Spent most of my 20s coping with the same crap since childhood and teenage years, figuring out getting rid of that crap -- so I wouldn't waste my 30s, 40s, 50s, and so on, dealing with coping with crap and unable to look beyond that.


When you're gonna turn 30 -- or before days of turning 30, why not dare yourself into doing those things you kept telling that you never did before?

Not that I'd recommend drinking, smoking, sex and drugs; make it an excuse to just do whatever you're looking and judge for yourself if that's really what you want, if that's what you're looking forward, if you want to dare and make a risk, if that's how you want to spend the next decade of your life.

Otherwise, turning 30 meant your physical health is harder to maintain. Worse if your habits sucks at earlier years.

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Nothing wrong with being a virgin. I was one until I was 19. And I only did it because of social pressure. You miss nothing. Do it when you want to. And don't pressure yourself. There's nothing special about it. And these days you can catch a lot of deseases.

I'm 43 and I don't drink alcohol and I don't smoke

You did everything right