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01 Jun 2025, 8:12 am

I don't if this is a habit or not, but whenever I'm feeling low or sad about something for some reason, I end up not talking or wanting to engage much in a conversation.

It happens some days when I'm a work and at home. But I do want to talk about why it is I am being quiet. It feels as though I've done it for attention so that other people will at some point ask what is wrong or the matter. But sometimes I hesitate because it's probably going to be the same issue I've talked to people about before and it's still bugging me and worried they'll get fed up and frustrated with talking about it. I don't want to suffer in silence.

I'm also wondering if this is a typical autistic trait where people just shut off from talking because they are upset. When it's happened at work, I can't remain completely silent as that might come across as rude but I won't always want to engage in small talk when I'm not feeling great.



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01 Jun 2025, 12:20 pm

chris1989 wrote:
But sometimes I hesitate because it's probably going to be the same issue I've talked to people about before and it's still bugging me and worried they'll get fed up and frustrated with talking about it. I don't want to suffer in silence.


You don't seem to have a problem doing it on here though. :lol:


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01 Jun 2025, 12:45 pm

Rossall wrote:
chris1989 wrote:
But sometimes I hesitate because it's probably going to be the same issue I've talked to people about before and it's still bugging me and worried they'll get fed up and frustrated with talking about it. I don't want to suffer in silence.


You don't seem to have a problem doing it on here though. :lol:


I don't see people's faces on here than I do face to face in the real world.



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01 Jun 2025, 12:50 pm

chris1989 wrote:
Rossall wrote:
chris1989 wrote:
But sometimes I hesitate because it's probably going to be the same issue I've talked to people about before and it's still bugging me and worried they'll get fed up and frustrated with talking about it. I don't want to suffer in silence.


You don't seem to have a problem doing it on here though. :lol:


I don't see people's faces on here than I do face to face in the real world.
I know what you mean mate. It's easier to vent on here, when you meet someone face to face you just tend to clam up..


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01 Jun 2025, 1:05 pm

If you were lucky you would have a boss who would assign you stuff to do all by yourself when you are feeling low.



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02 Jun 2025, 2:51 pm

It's often easier to write how you feel than tell it.



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02 Jun 2025, 2:54 pm

chris1989 wrote:
I don't if this is a habit or not, but whenever I'm feeling low or sad about something for some reason, I end up not talking or wanting to engage much in a conversation.

It happens some days when I'm a work and at home. But I do want to talk about why it is I am being quiet. It feels as though I've done it for attention so that other people will at some point ask what is wrong or the matter. But sometimes I hesitate because it's probably going to be the same issue I've talked to people about before and it's still bugging me and worried they'll get fed up and frustrated with talking about it. I don't want to suffer in silence.

I'm also wondering if this is a typical autistic trait where people just shut off from talking because they are upset. When it's happened at work, I can't remain completely silent as that might come across as rude but I won't always want to engage in small talk when I'm not feeling great.


I think this is pretty normal. When you're depressed often you're also low on spoons as well, so lacking the energy to engage with others.


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03 Jun 2025, 6:46 am

I isolate if I am feeling bad about myself or just can't deal with the world


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05 Jun 2025, 5:09 am

Ditto,
In fact my connecting to the WrongPlanet was 'inspired'/pushed by just such an episode.
And for me after typing away, ventilating and getting some back and forth on my posts was the first step for me to strat tentatively reaching out in the 'real' world again. :)

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