Feeling like I'm missing out on everything...

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Or I'm not using my time more wisely to want to do things.

I can't understand why I feel this way, it's almost like the world is going to end or time is running out for me because unlike other people I'm not all the time travelling the world, having a lot of good social times with friends and family, or even actively going out on dates. I feel like the only one who isn't when I know I'm not. I feel like I'm being ungrateful because I've been to Naples in the last year, and Copenhagen back in December and yet I act and feel like I've done "nothing". I like to travel but the only thing is I won't go solo.

I remember seeing something similar where someone turned 30 and feeling like life has passed them by, never had a relationship, casual flings and truly enjoying being young and just going about everyday working 40-50 hours a week and expecting things to "work out and get better" and sometimes hating it and going through some form of "early mid life crisis". I don't know if I'm feeling the same as this person.

Responders say well, get professional help, life only happens if you make it happen, you need to get out more and out of your comfort zone and life isn't going to arrive gift wrapped at your doorstep with an instruction manual.

Most of your posts are asking about what other people do and what you should be doing. That's probably the issue, some combination of actually missing out and failing to actually engage with what you're doing.

We can't do everything, but there's usually something that we can do and if we don't make those choices, others make them for us. I don't know that professional help is necessarily necessary here. But, if you can't actually seek out things that you want to do, then I don't see any alternative path there.

Maestro Chris,

When you think back to your trips to Naples and Copenhagen, what’s one moment—no matter how small—that made you feel truly alive or connected to the world?
I find that a small focus-shift from what is missing to what was/is meaningful, can sometimes help.

Kind regards,
Kada