Never went out in a car with a loud bunch of friends

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I don't know why but because I saw some guys in car presumably in their late teens/early 20s, it makes me feel like I've strangely missed out on not driving around in a car with friends of the same age, joking around and going for a drive somewhere. I wouldn't have wanted to drink and drive knowing that it could cause accidents but I seem to feel like everyone has had the experience of this whereas I didn't except walk around with friends as I didn't start driving until I was 28.

I don't know if I miss it much, I hear cars rushing up the roads sometimes with loud hip hop beats pumping out as they are going along which might be an irritation to some.

Yes, there are lots of odds and ends of things that you've never done and will never be able to do because you're autistic, or at least you'll never be able to do them in the same way and at the same age as many NT's do.

You post a lot about such things, I've noticed.

IMO, it doesn't do you any good to dwell on those things as much as you do. Instead, I think it would be better to focus on what you can do. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

You live in the U.K. -- which, as far as I can tell, has the world's best-developed autistic community and the world's best-developed neurodivergent community more generally. Thus you should have plenty of opportunities to find friends within those communities, if you look hard enough. And you should be able to find ways to have fun with prospective friends who are your true peers.

Anyhow:

It is indeed an irritation to some. Probably to many. It is certainly an irritation to me.

So I would say you're not missing anything truly worthwhile in this case.