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This is a repost from Reddit because nobody replied, also sorry it’s long :

So I'm 18.. I've gone on dating apps and stuff and I'm not unattractive I guess because I get a lot of people swipe up on my profile. However I don't know if it's because I'm too picky or something, Im attracted to people's minds, like sure I can think they're cute or something but i don't care much at all. I ended up talking to this guy for a few days and enjoyed it but I sort of mirror them and then put myself into the friendzone on accident? If I didn't mirror them I worry that I come off too dry, too intense or too "errm acktually "(because that's how I am lol) to be fair, I haven't really ever gotten along with my age group well but I don't want to go after older guys because then I think about like "gross why are you talking to an 18 year old as like a 22 year old" though the age gap is small the experience difference is there.

I don't really like doing dating s**t online because I'm more genuine to my nature in person. I just can't talk to people in person though(if that makes sense).. in my mind dating is like an elevator pitch: sell yourself to them within a short period of time then do the deeper stuff later. But if I can hardly walk up to someone how am I going to elevator pitch myself + not be disingenuous to myself?

Do I just go to conventions like idk what I'm doing.. save it for when I'm older and working a big girl job(because then I'll be able to go slower). I just feel like I'm falling behind, all of my friends have had boyfriends and it's like they're in a club away from me.

Hurting my chances more now I don't see a point in short term relationships so if I feel like the other party is just there for a good time not a long time I'm leaving.. what's the point of dating if you don't intend on marrying someone. Just be friends at that point.

Married autists and women successful in dating who have been in a similar situation as me: what do I do? I don't want to be alone forever

Day program! !!

That is how I met my partner!

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You're only 18 (I think). You must know a few guys you find attractive. Choose one and ask him if he wants to go on a walk. Ask him things about himself that you don't know, and talk to him about yourself. If he doesn't have a girlfriend, he probably wants one.

I guess when I was young I met prospective partners by asking them questions about themselves. If they were attracted to me, I didn't need to sell myself to them, just show interest.

Hello 3uhuu3,

As a dad of 3 my advise will most certainly be dated but for what it's worth: different leagues, age-gaps, ... etc should not matter, if you vibe, you vibe. period
and never be afraid to show your true self, going along and mirroring because they might loose interest. I almost lost my marriage because of me doing this, so definitely not recommend. Follow you preferences and stay engaged socially in your hobbies/topics that interest you and the people you find sharing these interests can be/become if not potential partners, at least people you share an interest and a friendly conversation with.

Kind regards,
Kada