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Jamesy
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Yesterday, 2:07 pm

Recently I met this girl on a night out in London and she thought I was cute according to a friend. The next day on WhatsApp we had a nice conversation untill I brought up that I volunteer for cancer research but don’t yet have a proper job and then she stopped texting me altogether.

Do you think most likely it is because I mentioned I am unemployed is the reason she stopped responding to me on WhatsApp?

Shes 25 and I am 35 by the way. Also Even though I workout and take care of myself my looks are average, and i am only 5ft8 and she on the other hand is really good looking. Makes it even more of a tragedy that a great opportunity has slipped by



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Yesterday, 3:38 pm

Being an unemployed guy comes with a severe dating penalty, even more severe than the penalty for being an unemployed woman.

If you find someone who will date you as an unemployed person, who isn't an unemployed person themselves, let alone an employed woman... you will be very lucky or have some serious charm going on that would be unusual for an autistic person to hold.



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Yesterday, 3:48 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
Being an unemployed guy comes with a severe dating penalty, even more severe than the penalty for being an unemployed woman.

If you find someone who will date you as an unemployed person, who isn't an unemployed person themselves, let alone an employed woman... you will be very lucky or have some serious charm going on that would be unusual for an autistic person to hold.



But she's only 25 if she was a bit older I would say it could be a bigger deal breaker. Perhaps because ghosting/flaking is more common now than ever thanks to social anxiety and distractions from digital contents



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Today, 1:55 am

or it may be a 'soft' excuse for something else,
as eg.
bad breath, an aggressive stare, uncomfortable intrusion in personal space



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Today, 6:59 am

traven wrote:
or it may be a 'soft' excuse for something else,
as eg.
bad breath, an aggressive stare, uncomfortable intrusion in personal space



Aggressive start? Lol so many things can make you undatable these days



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Today, 7:24 am

Jamesy wrote:
traven wrote:
or it may be a 'soft' excuse for something else,
as eg.
bad breath, an aggressive stare, uncomfortable intrusion in personal space



Aggressive start? Lol so many things can make you undatable these days


Stare, not start.

Make sure you don't do this:
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Overly aggressive or intense stares tend to make people uneasy.


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