Thinking I'm a bore and not worth anyone's time

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I sometimes feel like one of the reasons I have few friends is not just because of not actively looking in my own time. I seem to feel as though I get the looks as though I'm "strange" despite trying to be social.

I used to take it personally whenever in the past someone blocked or deleted me on social media because of using it in the past as a means to vent any frustrations or anything that had upset me or because I was comparing to others despite people telling me not to use Facebook as like a "diary" and just delete your account because everyone else has their own issues they don't talk about online and now I do almost nothing on there now except scroll on occasions and I don't even use Instagram, tik tok either.

I feel everyone has mates they have or used to hang out with on a regular basis and enjoy things with so they don't sit and regret that they don't.

Maybe you are "strange"? I don't mean that in a bad way, just that strange means unusual, and unusual just means you're not average? I don't know you so I can't really say. It's hard to sift through an entire population to find people that match (match isn't quite the right word) you. I suspect this can be true for anyone, but more-so for some. But they're out there... I don't really do the talking thing much, certainly not to people I don't know, unless I'm in a very particular mood (and right now on the internet bc I decided it'd be "good for me")... But if I'm going to talk to someone I don't know, it's more likely I talk to the "weirdo" than anyone else. Far more likely. Also I gotta say getting older tends to seclude people anyways. No time for all that.



I tend to go a little hard on fb sometimes. I treat fb like "dear diary" sometimes, and my diary is apparently pretty whacked out. Maybe I should know better, and really I do, but I do it anyways and it's not the end of the world. I don't use any social media things except fb. Never have, though.



If time wasted is time enjoyed, then it's not wasted time. A ghoul from fallout nv told me that. I don't know if it applies to you, or makes sense to you, but it does to me. Do you actually want to go hang out with people, or is it just the bad feelings you get when you think about not having more interactions? Both? Either way I'm right there with you. You are ABSOLUTELY worth my time. I just spent like an hour writing this so thanks If you figure it out lmk, bc I have the same or similar feelings.

All social interaction is extremely hard going for those of us on the spectrum. It's going to be your whole life probably. Self-acceptance is key. Don't try so hard or blame yourself. It's just the way it is and it's no one's fault.

Yeah. As for me, I stand in one spot at my job. I also work near people who never seem to stop talking. I don't know how they do that, just talking non-stop all day and never running out of things to say. Meanwhile, I'm the quiet, stuttering, autistic introvert.

I think that I may be a believer in having a small number of true friends, as opposed to a bunch of "friends" and followers on a social media account. If you can form a meaningful relationship with one other person, or have a pet and perhaps earn a cat's trust and friendship, that might help. Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with enjoying some "alone time" and with having some hobbies and interests. I perceive that the mainstream culture can often tend to favor extroverts who go out clubbing every weekend, and that introverts can be misunderstood and stigmatized.

Anyway, I definitely relate to the original post and to the other comments here. What another comment said about time stood out to me too. Yeah, if spending a few hours playing a favorite video game is something that brings you immense joy, then it is not wasted time.