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Is feeling like an inconvenience to others a trait of RSD? Today my partner's son was taking me to work in his car, and my partner told me he's waiting outside and to get ready quick. So I tried to be as quick as I could getting ready, and when I went out there to the car the son said "you ready?" in a loud voice, and there was something about the way he said it that made me think I might have been keeping him waiting. But it wasn't like I had asked him for a ride, I didn't even know he was giving me a ride until my partner came rushing in and told me. But I still felt a bit embarrassed, as I don't like causing inconvenience to others. I know my partner's son can be a bit impatient.

You're parter's son sounds like he was being a bit of an ahole. If he chose to drive you somewhere without you asking that's his bloody problem.

Just my two cents

CFL

^I agree.
It's not like you knew in advance that you needed to be ready & leave at a certain time. It seems passive aggressive to volunteer to do something & then act like it's a big inconvenience.

I think it might just be his personality to yell out things to seem "cool". I might have been overthinking it and feeling anxious that I might have made him regret offering to give me a ride. I don't often see him. But he told me if I needed a ride any time then he's just a phonecall away, but I'm still not going to take advantage, as I hate feeling like a burden even if a favour is offered, as often people just say that to be polite and the expected response is to be modest.

I agree you might have been overthinking. No matter why he acted that way, you can always apologize, if you're concerned you inconvenienced him. If he didn't need an apology, he'll probably say so, if he's like most people.

Your partner's son is definitely not thinking about this anymore. He's on to the latest text he received, or the conversation he had at work, or the video game he's playing right now. So there's no reason for you to dwell on it. Just make a note to be kind the next time your partner's making you wait for some reason.

Normal people have to say something. Whether it is accurate or relevant isn't the point. They have to say SOMETHING.

I'd just let it pass.

But, I have auditory processing disorder. So, it is important that if something isn't relevant, and I intend to go on trips with someone, that they make it clear that what they said isn't relevant, so we don't get confused.

I think rejection sensitivity is very common with us.