Is it worth trying to explain autism to an NT

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Someone kind of read me down to filth about all my deficiencies in a social media post. I have spent all this time over the last few days trying to explain how autistics are not deficient neurotypicals but a whole other type of human.

Especially my romantic behavior, which is just to hyper-fixate on someone who is enormously out of my league and love them from afar for yrs. I know this is relatively.common for autistics, i have been doing this for a couple decades. I am extremely introverted and a loner.

I want to love who I want to love, even if it is unrequited. I am not good in relationships. I am happy the way I am. I think this trait.of idealizing people and hyper-fixating on them is so weird to NT's that I am starting to feel like I never should have even tried to explain it
Has anyone else 'made them see' that how we are is okay? I feel like trying to explain it made it sound even weirder.

I feel like it is hopeless to try to get an NT to understand it.

Nope....and hang onto your dreams .... and you are not the first person, I have heard of others with similiar thoughts and dreams .About People they may adore from afar.

Thanks! After I have tried ro do all this explaining, I just hit a wall tonight, like, there is just no way to impart this information to someone in a concise way that doesn't bore them to death. And I think a lot of them just do not really believe us,

Trying to explain Aspergers to someone who does not have it is like trying to explain color to a blind man.

I have found it useful if I have to say anything to describe something briefly on the fringe of what is commonly understood. If you have a fixation on someone and no desire to advance, you can describe it as your being inclined in a poetic or artistic direction and while perhaps not yielding the results others have, you prefer it.

Keeping things short, boring, and within an existing frame of reference can be useful.

I think what makes it extra tough, is I think with ASD, the four letters I can think of the most is YMMV... There are like similar... things, or patterns that can be extrapolated in a general sense to most ND people imo, but I question all the time if my emotions, sensations, are something that everyone feels; or something that is unique to me, or other people with ASD or similar divergences.

I agree with ¶1. After that, not so sure.

I've tried but I just get tired.

Not worth it imo.

They have difficulty understanding anything that is different. Too much work for too little benefit.

Instead, if you are going to socialize with a NT, show them something that is useful to THEM.

No one wants to hear in depth explanations about autism or anything else. Trust me. It's not just neurotypicals, either. I am fairly certain that there are autistic people who do not know that they are on the spectrum who are assuming that other people are on the spectrum who are not, in fact, on the autism spectrum, based on a few sloppy diagnostic criteria that they have heard but not really investigated.

It's complete madness out there.