Has anyone ever said "you're the complete opposite of me"?

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Like, as if it was some ground-breaking revelation, as if they were stating something profound??

To me, this sort of statement has to be one of the most banal things I've ever heard...and I've gotten it more than once.

With the NT tendency towards indirect communication, even I sensed that what they were really "telling" me was that I'm mentally ill or "not all there", like they are. That my thought processes and way of experiencing emotions are far from theirs.

When this one fellow gave me that stupid line, I replied: "I'm gonna let you in on a little secret; I'm the total opposite of 99% of people."

I left him speechless

That is not what people mean when they say "you're my opposite".

They are not implying that "they're all there, and you're not".

It's usually intended as nothing more than the observation that two people have a pattern of having notably differing opinions on an assortment of topics, and nothing else. It's not intended as a jab or an insult. It's not meant to be taken absolutely literally, and applied to everything, including implying that they're sane and you're crazy, etc.

It is a common phrase between two people where one person likes horror but the other likes comedy, one likes dark colors and the other likes bright colors, one likes spicy food and the other likes sweet, one is a bit of a pessimist the other more of an optimist, "they're total opposites!" is all that means - in no way is it meant to imply that one is better than the other.

The "profound" nature of the comment is just cos they've realized the pattern in that moment, not cos it makes them feel like some kinda deep philosopher or something. It's just recognizing a pattern. I thought it was pretty common to have an "oh!" moment when one notices or realizes something they hadn't before, no matter how mundane.

The reason for the comparison to themselves isn't "banality" or that they think they're the golden standard of something - just that they are the one person they know best, and - just like everyone else - they're inherently going to see the world from their own eyes. It doesn't mean that they see themselves as the ideal to be compared to, just that they're comparing two different things - one of which happens to be the inherent lens they see the world though. It's just a comparison, not a judgement.

The reason your comment "left him speechless" is cos in the typical context, it didn't make any sense.

I can't help but wonder from what source you got your interpretation, or how you came to your conclusion.

I've had a lot of people say that to me. People said that to me when I was a kid.

... Actually no.

They cannot mirror me nor seen any inverse within them from myself.
They can compare and contrast specific traits, but barely anything like opposite or inversed.

All I'd get is "you're really different".
If there's a spectrum of comparison, that most people are on a particular axis that they can see in themselves -- and I tend not exist wherever axis it was.

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Yes they do. Most often it is a descriptive comparison, not an insult.

I don't recall ever hearing that but I have said on this forum & to my girlfriend that one of my cousins is kinda the opposite of me or anti-me. He's kind of wannabe gangster player type who could charm the skin off a snake. He moved to California hopping to make it as an actor but is usually doing various short-term odd jobs.