Have fixation I want nipped in the butt quickly.

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21 Sep 2007, 8:59 pm

I am in grade 12, actually I am graduated, but I am returning for a fifth year. There is a girl in one of my classes that for God knows why I have become fixated upon. I was previously fixated on another girl who graduated from highschool and moved on to university, and my fixation for her dissappeared. I am curiuos as to why it has reappeared once again. This isn't really a "love or dating" question but I could not think of another place to post this message. This girl is, I admit, very attractive. And she wears some very revealling clothes at times, that is almost everyday she wears a shirt that shows lots and lots of cleavage. I am asking for advice as to how to stop this before I get too overwehlmed in anxiety. Thank-you very much.

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21 Sep 2007, 9:01 pm

Tell her. Ruins everything.

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21 Sep 2007, 9:04 pm

Why did you return for a fifth year of high school? Was it for the sake of these girls?

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21 Sep 2007, 9:06 pm

Oh no, pandabear, I knew the girl from last year was leaving, and I never met the new girl until this year. I returned for a fifth year to complete an English, Chemistry, Biology, and a math course before I moved on to post-secondary.

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21 Sep 2007, 9:09 pm

calandale wrote:

Tell her. Ruins everything.

Well..in all seriousness...
Most of the time that seems to work.

Other than having them dislike you, and being open about that fact...I really don't have a clue. Even then, that doesn't always work.

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21 Sep 2007, 9:41 pm

AND, who knows?

I mean, if you don't WANT the
obsession or the girl, what do
you have to lose?

Except self esteem.

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21 Sep 2007, 10:16 pm

calandale wrote:

Except self esteem.

Which can be significantly more catastrophic than you might anticipate.

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21 Sep 2007, 10:19 pm

It should be nipped in the bud, not butt. The term refers to a type of pruning to direct the growth of a plant. I'm glad you're working on stopping yourself in this situation. I wish I knew what to tell you what to do.

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21 Sep 2007, 10:23 pm

gwenevyn wrote:

calandale wrote:

Except self esteem.

Which can be significantly more catastrophic than you might anticipate.

Maybe. I get a bit of a boost off of actually
DOING so. Guess gamblers get this too.

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21 Sep 2007, 10:24 pm

lelia wrote:

It should be nipped in the bud, not butt.

Maybe he meant he wanted to bite her ass?

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21 Sep 2007, 10:25 pm

gwenevyn wrote:

calandale wrote:

Except self esteem.

Which can be significantly more catastrophic than you might anticipate.

This is true.

calandale wrote:

Maybe. I get a bit of a boost off of actually
DOING so. Guess gamblers get this too.

I sure as hell don't.

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21 Sep 2007, 10:30 pm

It's a hell of a lot better than just
stewing about it. Kinda like cutting
my hair, it throws the dice, and makes
me feel relieved.

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21 Sep 2007, 10:32 pm

calandale wrote:

Kinda like cutting
my hair, it throws the dice, and makes
me feel relieved.

Yeah, well, I hate haircuts. Usually don't get one until it gets long-ish, and then I feel half-naked once the person cutting it is done.

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21 Sep 2007, 10:36 pm

Couldn't stand them, until I learned
to do it myself.

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21 Sep 2007, 10:40 pm

calandale wrote:

Couldn't stand them, until I learned
to do it myself.

Last time I gave myself a haircut, I was half-drunk, and convinced the idiot that had cut my hair had given me a mullet. That didn't turn out too well.

Mullet-phobia. Not the most fun phobia to have.

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21 Sep 2007, 11:43 pm

Praetor2379 wrote:

You have 2 choices:

A) Tell Her
B) Completely Ignore Her.

And of course- Find someone else to spend your time on. If she is really hot and you're not a jock don't even bother, girls don't become open-minded about that sort of thing until like 30. Don't make a fool of yourself, high school is high school. It sucks for just about everyone.

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