What should I do about my Aspie friend?

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My friend is an Aspie and is very difficult to deal with. He always wants to talk about sex with me and I hate it. We had one discussion about it recently and now he thinks if I don't want to talk about it that "something is wrong with me". I just don't know what to do with him. We've been through a lot together but its getting to the point where he doesn't listen to me anymore. He analyzes everything I say and then tries to make me feel guilty for things that I know I shouldn't feel guilty about. How should I explain to him that he's not acting appropriately with me?

Tell him clearly, "I do not want to have discussions about sex or sex-related topics anymore. Discussions about sex make me uncomfortable. I will not respond to you when you are talking about sex. I will not negotiate with you on this point." If he tries to tell you that something is wrong with you for not wanting to talk about sex, just repeat variations on the above. If he won't stop bringing it up after you've told him you aren't going to discuss it anymore, then just don't speak with him for a while. Trying to make someone talk about sex when they don't want to is a form of aggression, and you shouldn't have to deal with it. If he really wants to keep you as a friend, he'll get the message and stop bringing it up.

I think that he'd appreciate that If you provide him with direct feedback that his behavior is inappropriate for your friendship I think that he will get the message. If not I'd end the friendship and pull away. That's not your fault if he doesn't change his behavor.