Males: Would you prefer to be female? and why?

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Any NT will do, I am not fussed.

Oddly enough this is a theme in one of the OZ stories by Baum. A young man who goes to Oz is tranformed into a female ! !! That gave me pause as a lad ! !!
Ya wake up, and 'Oh, wot's this??' I don't know how that's interpreted by therapists, but BLIMEY ! ! I remember thinking, trade my manhood for being girly?

Of course we all think the other sex has it easy. A girl says she wishes she was male so she could get good and pissed, and all her mates say ''at's all right, let's walk you home now." But the reality is, ya get pissed, and some blokes likely to take a swing at ya, and yer lookin' up at the sky from the pavement. Whereas, some girly gets a little tipsy, and it's 'who brought her?'.

It also seems like a not too uncommon event in MANGA.
I don't read any, but my daughter and her best friend have related stories to me where the characters change... mostly into animal-type forms it seems.
I understand there are some series with characters who I would call Transgendered.

First off, some of the posts in this topic make me ashamed of my physical gender.
I've come to deeply hate all the emphasis on the "differences" between men and women.
I'm not quite going to say that I would prefer to be female, but I do think I would be better off as female when I consider the structure of my family.
In truth, I'd most prefer to not have any physical gender.

I like being a guy.

Tim

I believe that in our Western cultures, if we weren't so hung up on a narrowly defined idea of masculinity we would be so much better off.

Both men and women, in general (or in public anyway), take such a staunch stance at what constitutes being masculine.
Men do not have the leeway to express emotions or interests in the same way women do.

If a woman expresses herself in a masculine manner, she is still respected... even honored... in many circumstances.
Not all the time, everywhere, but certainly most places I have lived and worked.

Where I live, it's all the rage for girls and women to be the hard talking, tough walkin', 'Cowgirl'.

BUT,

If a 'Cowboy' wanted to ease up a bit and take on a bit of a feminine flair... even for just certain occasions... he would be labeled a fa***t and whatnot, and exposed to hatred even to the point of physical abuse.

I can guarantee you that although I have been actively and somewhat openly exploring a feminine gender these last several years, I have also launched myself into someone's face numerous times when they were doing something I felt needed to be stopped.
So, while I may be finding more feminine feelings in myself, I still maintain the ability to act like an animal when provoked. I have the size and muscle to back it up too.

Once I get all this straightened out in my mind, I will be the happiest I have ever been in my life.
Until then, I'll play a game of cat-and-mouse while working out various feelings and ideas from my mind.

Hmmm,

After reading my post above I thought I should add something.

I believe that too many people in this world do not understand the difference between gender and sexuality.
I think I mentioned that in a previous post.

In the context of gender, we have an equal amount of ignorance in what defines the different genders and how fluid these genders may be. Not to mention that we typically only recognize two genders.
Couldn't there be more?

I believe most of the defining of what makes a certain gender what it is, can be traces back to fear.
People fear a life without limits.
We put limits on everything we can, so we can state.. FOR SURE... what it is we believe, what it is we like, where it is we belong.
It's so ingrained in our idea of identity, that when these definitions/limits are challenged... we more-often-than-not respond with anger and fear.

How many people responding here, and in the corresponding women's thread, would be much more at ease if the limits were more vague?

No I would not want to be female.

I would not be able to travel as freely as I do nor enjoy the relative safety I often take for granted. Men own and operate most everything, women are used to a level of subjegation even in western countries I can't even comprehend.

Plus having been a man for 35 years I would probably decide to be a celebate woman.

I would not want to deal with interwomen relationships because they are SO complex and seemingly illogical that I'd go nuts.

Plus look at the way society pressures women. Sometimes I think they are more vulnerable to commercialism than a little child.