At what age did you give up trying to attract men/women?

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Mw99
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16 Nov 2007, 7:49 pm

I was around 15 years old when I realized it was stupid of my part to try to attract women given that I did not know what to say or do when I attracted women; when I suceeded in attracting women, I ended up being rejected and feeling humiliated. Prior to that, I tried to attract women in my own loser way. I walked like an alpha male, tough guy attitude, stared at attractive women, and paid a lot of attention to my clothes and physical appearance. My personality was incongruent with the type of image I was trying to portray, though. I saw that and decided it'd be wise to give up trying to attract women. I wonder what my life would have been like if I had kept trying.



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16 Nov 2007, 7:55 pm

You're and Aspie. We never give up. We obssess. We'll find someone soon enough.



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16 Nov 2007, 8:17 pm

I stopped trying at around 15 too. It's okay though, I don't need romance in my life.



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16 Nov 2007, 8:22 pm

Around 26. I just broke up, I lost my job, life was going to hell fast. When I got a new job, I decided that I was going to focus on work and forget that foolishness. It worked, everything improved.

I dated, but I had very little expectation. I met my wife when I wasn't trying. Go figure. But it took seven years.

If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn't have bothered trying until after college. Then again, I may still be a virgin.



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16 Nov 2007, 8:25 pm

I never started.



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16 Nov 2007, 8:55 pm

I never started making a conscious effort.



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16 Nov 2007, 9:03 pm

Mw99 wrote:
I was around 15 years old when I realized it was stupid of my part to try to attract women given that I did not know what to say or do when I attracted women; when I suceeded in attracting women, I ended up being rejected and feeling humiliated. Prior to that, I tried to attract women in my own loser way. I walked like an alpha male, tough guy attitude, stared at attractive women, and paid a lot of attention to my clothes and physical appearance. My personality was incongruent with the type of image I was trying to portray, though. I saw that and decided it'd be wise to give up trying to attract women. I wonder what my life would have been like if I had kept trying.


I never attempted to attract anyone my own age. I found them immature, annoying and childish. About a decade seems to blunt the effects of that somewhat. In my two long-term relationships, both have been a decade older than me. My husband is. It works. Maybe try a different age group. More mature people tend to have a better understanding and appreciation of Aspies.


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16 Nov 2007, 9:16 pm

I guess I never started. At 15 though I was to busy in my own world to think about girls.

Thats not to say I would not like to have a girlfriend.



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16 Nov 2007, 9:20 pm

I don't think that I've ever started.


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16 Nov 2007, 9:56 pm

I have never really tried...but um....they end up pouncing on me anyway.



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16 Nov 2007, 10:29 pm

Probably somewhere in my 30's.


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16 Nov 2007, 10:44 pm

Stimshieme wrote:
You're and Aspie. We never give up. We obssess. We'll find someone soon enough.


cool! new sig!


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16 Nov 2007, 10:58 pm

At around 22 - I cause had lost all of the false friends I had to go clubbing with and my online experiences were awful. After the breakdown I concentrated on uni work and did a lot of progress and graduated. I wish I had done that from the start; I wasted a lot of time.



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17 Nov 2007, 12:07 am

I don't try to attract men for the sake of attracting men... well, I did a bit when I was really depressed, but usually I just either like someone or don't. :)



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17 Nov 2007, 1:26 am

I stopped around age 17 (although, in the spirit of keeping an open mind, I remain watchful for any other opportunities to find a woman, no matter how misguided that may be.)



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17 Nov 2007, 1:28 am

I have a GF and struggle to keep the relationship working. I tryed attracting women a little bit, but in the end always failed, I have yet to give up at the age of 25. I want a family and if I cant succeed in the end finding a women to be with me for life I may consider adoption.


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