Is it bad to be considered "a joke"?

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"You are a joke." Have you heard that one before? Is being called "a joke" supposed to be good or bad? Are comedians considered "a joke"? How about people with a good sense of humor? Why would anyone call someone "a joke"?

It makes them feel superior?

The way I've heard it, it's an insult. If someone is "a joke," they can't be taken seriously because they're not (in the other person's eyes) successful or smart enough, etc.

I agree. Calling someone "a joke" is insulting.

Believe me, if someone calls a comedian a joke, they are very much insulting them. When someone in my community says "you're a joke", they are really saying "your a f-ing looser" or "You're pathetic". Naturaly I heard it a couple too many times. For me, this insult ranges from lacking finances (where it's mostly directed), to loosing a game or doing badly at something. The sender sais that to mock the reciever's ability or person in some way. Don't know if this is the case with your situation, because you havn't really explained anything about where you got it.

Last edited by LiendaBalla on 22 Nov 2007, 3:09 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I would take it as a compliment and move on.

It's an insult.

"I don't get the joke"

"You ARE the joke"

Being mean and insulting.

The correct retort is to then crisply SLAP the person doing the insulting, and then say "Well the JOKES ON YOU"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

It is an insult. You are being dismissed. That person is not worth your time.

I think emo000 has a great attitude. But who has as much sense as that?

My grandsons are having counselling at Tony Atwood's clinic and they are learning to unlock the NT world. It has made a great difference to them.

What if you are a wuss and get the s**t kicked out of you ?

Mmmmm emo00!

I was off topic then, but I have read your previous post on why NTs 'hate ' aspies. Your frustration must be high. Don't think of yourself as a joke.

Oh, thanks for your concern.
I don't really, more of a clown maybe. Here for some amusement for the moment.

I was actually joking myself. It's never a good idea to haul off and slap someone..... unless you can run really fast and they really, really need it. lol Even then probably not.

when Heather the Aspie on ANTM said " I am not joking!" Bianca responded "you ARE the joke!" it was an insult pure and simple from the NTs point of view.

As long as you see the insult from the NT point of view it hurts and you know you are being disrespected.

If you see it from the Aspie point of view 'here is another one that is not only neurotypical but neuroELITE and feels only those 'socially able' like her is to be tolerated. That is prejudice and I must put on the mask one puts on when they are being disrespected." I usually get irritated by such behaviour mostly because it requires me to deal with it or be shunned by the whole group. It is such a waste of time, because the whole group has the same attitude from lesser to greater degree.

so I like to ignore and deny such actual dismissals from other folks. I do laugh like a hyena when this happens to me in real life, with or with out pointing to the person making fun of me. I figure let them look like the idiot for messin' with the idiot.

Merle

This reminds me of something. I don't know how to deal with people who insult me when it's a co-worker or relative or someone else I have to interact with regularly. If I ignore them, they see me as an easy target and it gets worse. If I try to stand up for myself, I always end up accidentally sounding too angry or something and upsetting someone. A lot of NTs are good with those subtly defensive replies. I get so surprised when I'm insulted, I can never think of something to say.

Or I think of the BEST thing to say and it is too late. . or I DO say it and they say 'so?' and I thought it so CRUSHING and they didn't even GET it.

I always go too far. I think what would pierce my thick skin and I go for about triple and I skewered too much, I went too far, I actually called a spade a spade, how dare I? I now have to listen to how they are attacked for no reason. How I am inappropriate because my observations on their behavior was certainly not called for, etc., etc.
And don't try to appeal to their better nature, because they will throw their momma under the truck if it means they don't have to be honest with themselves and apologize to the likes of you!

I am a joke.

No one seems to get it.