I'm worried about someone....

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....actually 2 people at my now-new school:

In the first 3 classes I have, there's this dude (obviously autistic) who I can say is different from the other kids and the other kids pick on and made fun of him during class in front of the teachers because he can say and blurt out random things that you don't wanna know and some other behavior like that.

Now in art class, there's this dude who've I known since middle school who is honest (and I mean too honest) and like the first dude, the kids pick on him in class, too. He probably might have aspergers syndrome or something like that.

....and I'm worried about both of them.

Often myself I feel very bad and horrible and disgusting to see other kids getting picked on, or made fun of, or anything of that sort. I also feel desperately bad when I see kids eating lunch by themselves. I think its because I understand their positions. The chubby kid with acne who eats lunch on his own and pretends to not notice that he is alone (headphones/book) but you know he doesn't have any friends. That is me... on the inside.

I also got made fun of a lot in elementary school and somewhat in middle school/high school/still. Teachers observed this behavior. In elem. school it was very obviously not "kidding around" (as it is now), but no one did anything. Today though, in this society, teachers should be doing things! (Let's face it, the 90s and before did not have anti-bullying acts and the like).

Maybe you should voice your concern to a teacher? I would. I am fortunately very capable of talking to teachers about this sort of thing... so I would give it a try if I were you. I would say maybe "I observed so and so being picked on and I don't think it is appropriate or helps make this a learning environment for him. I just wanted to let you know." Don't make it sound like you're upset with the teacher because you know they saw and didn't do anything! 'Cas teachers are kind of oblivious sometimes... especially at the start/end of classes, when most bullying goes on.

Be friends with them - sounds like they need a good friend.

Here is my advice: they have to confront their own demons on their own. You can't save them and they may not want you to "save" or "help" them either. People have to overcome themselves on their own time and within the boundaries of their own struggles and limits.

What you can do, however, is befriend them both or be there for them. You can listen and offer emotional support. You can mentor them; but, at the end of the day, they have to save themselves. You can guide them and provide them with insights, but they have to complete the journey on their own time.