Roommate from hell ... and stress up the wall

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So, it turns out my roommate has turned to hiding under the f*****g (pardon my french) bed and listening to everything I say.

I want her out. I don't care how, but it's gonna happen fast. I have e-mailed my hall director, since we've been having other issues.

She's such a b***h. I haven't gone from liking to hating someone in such a short span of time. I think it was five days. Wow, new record.

So her nosiness and other issues have caused me horrible stress and like ... I just can't take it anymore. Christmas break is only two weeks away, but I want her out now. I think its perfectly fair since she invaded MY privacy, right?

I knew living in a dorm would be a mistake. Argh, I am transferring next year to a certain college that is more than willing to meet all my Aspie needs.

I swear, I am losing my f*****g mind. I just ... I don't hate her ... I loathe her.

Wow, and I am usually a nice person.

Screw her feelings, she distroyed any *I* had left. I am sick of people like this, I just got rid of one.

So, I am going to go now and knit. I have become a nervous knitter.

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Any advice against her would be appreciated. OH, I know she has issues, but she is using them as a crutch.

Just the mere *thought* of sharing a living space with someone sends my nerves into orbit. An apartment would be bad enough, but a dorm with all those people...omg the horror! This is why it was never even a remote consideration for me. Ever. I had my own apartment. Expensive? Yes. Worth it? Absolutely. Privacy is golden.

And that girl sucks.

i would get yourself a bed she cant fit under

also, get her out as fast as you can, she sounds like Das Uber b***h

Set a steel trap under the bed.

I was in collage living in a dorm, I never finsished my 4 year degree cause I just could not do it anymore, it drove me crazy, I spent sooo much time just escaping, sleeping in the hall or lounge area just to be away, climbing mountains when I shoulda been studying or doing work (I still had deans list tho somehow), even resorted to being drunk all the time in order to try and deal just a little more. Had a had a small room to myself everything would be different. If you go to collage and have an ASD, absolutly u must have a room to yourself, no question about it.

that is a great idea,wish am had thought of that when living with the aspie b***h from hell.

Becca_Shmeka,
am have just got out of a very torturing experience as well,living with a manipulative asd lady who has munchausens type behavior/severe attention seeking behavior,she has caused a level of suffering am have never even known of before.

Am really recommend trying to get out of there as soon as is possible,because people like that lady will cause such mental torment that it might be harder to recover from.
Would it not be possible to move to another room because of what is going on?
Or move back to family home until the permenant home becomes available?
It's only going to get worse if it's left as it is,she should be living on her own or at least with someone else as nasty as her so they can outdo each other.

She's leaving, or at least I am pretty sure she is. I made a complaint against her and I will be on my own for the last two weeks, or so I hope.

I felt guilty but all my friends are like, dont feel guilty, she's a b***h! So, I don't.

I've been so close to crying all day tho, even before. You know when you're body gets the shakes and you're hands are cold and clamy and you're really f*****g jumpy?

Yeah, that's how I am right now.

So, thank you all for the suport, I really needed it.

But, keep replying, this isn't over yet, not by a long shot.

you'll probably be getting a new roomate, so you might proactively find some boxes to store under your bed so that a human wouldn't fit under there. Tell the admin people that you want someone who's really quiet and studious. You'd still have to put up with the sounds of another person in the room (I'm assuming that you can't afford to rent the whole room yourself), but at least you might end up with another aspie.

Good luck!

yeah, its been five hours and still no word, the library is my safe haven, but i have to leave at like 5:45-6:00

i hope it is resolved by then

anyway, i am most likely getting my own room for next semester

i think i might have to room someone, but i honestly dont know

:/ life used to be so much easier

Shes gone.

I am so freaking happy I could cry.

She wanted to speak with me but I am not comfortable doing that. Is it okay that I said no? My mom says it is and that what I feel is perfectly normal.

Is it? This horrid betryal?

After what she did to you, it's perfectly okay to say no.

I agree.

I had a roommate like that once. She complained about everything.

I had another housemate who partied all the time, brought boyfriends into the apartment, and came home in the early morning, just as I was about to leave for class.

Cats are the best roomies. They can be loud sometimes, but I'd rather cope with that than some complaining person.

It is absolutely fine that you said no. Ppl like that should feel as bad as possible for abusing others.

I had a bad experience at uni too - I shared a house with a girl and a guy.. and he made a pass at me, which I refused, and after that he became my worst enemy. He knew I was very forgetfull: not knowing where my keys were, losing random stuff, and so I would leave the back door unlocked whenever I couldn't find my keys as I was always the last person to leave for lectures and I knew I'd be the first person back in the house. He took to leaving his lectures early and coming home, locking the doors and not answering the doorbell. So there's me, (just recovering from pneumonia no less - of which he commented about to his friend "YES! There is a god after all!") stuck outside in the freezing cold with no money or food or anywhere to go.

Then one day I got sick of it, and got my friend to ring the doorbell after I had tried multiple times. He answered the door to her, and she stuck her foot through the doorway to stop him from shutting it, and shouted over to me to get in. He tried to talk to me, I said "excuse me" and barged past him as he didn't move. Then I put on my stereo really loud with all my death metal angry songs on

He knocked on my door and said we needed a house meeting. So I went into the kitchen, and he told me to sit down. Then he proceeded to shout at me, saying I need to stop leaving the door open and stop being so forgetful and aloof. I explained myself, saying that I didn't leave it OPEN, I left it unlocked and it was the BACK door so it wasn't even visible. Plus, that I knew I'd be back in 3 hours at the maximum and as it was a monday morning, I doubted any other students would be around/awake at that time, AND my room was the only one in jeopardy, as the rest were locked. He looked at me, and went "you're not listening" and pulled a face and a gesture that even though I'm bad at faces I can see when someone's mocking me or making me out to be an idiot. I was getting really angry at this point. I said "stop talking to me like I'm a child" - he was a year YOUNGER than I - and he went "well stop acting like one"..

Then I got up to go and he slammed the kitchen door in my face and I went "how DARE you do that" and he started shouting more, so I went "Not gonna put up with this I'm leaving", went to open the door, and again he slammed the door in my face, looming over me (he was about 6ft 2, I'm 5ft 5) and shouted "You're not going anywhere 'til we get this sorted". I shouted back something that I can't remember, and he shouted louder than I can cope with, it hurt my head so bad, and my other housemate (which I think is aspie too) who had been silent all the way through this (she understood my reasoning for the door, and was only there before because she heard a completely different story from him) shouted "STOP IT BOTH OF YOU", which startled him enough to let go of the door, through which I bolted and ran into my room and locked the door. I stayed in that room for 2 days straight - didn't go to lectures, didn't eat, etc. I couldn't find my keys, and to this day they are missing, and I was so depressed and couldn't speak to anyone, not even my mum on the phone.

At least I had a separate room, with a lock.

I left that place when my tenancy ran out. I was determined not to let him win and make me move out. It wasn't my fault.

Wow. Harsh. That dude was an ass. Maybe he took your keys?

So yeah, she was SUPPOSED to move out, but now she is like taking forever bitching about how I touched her stuff and s**t. I'm like first off someone (I suspect her) kept calling and breathing into the phone and I only unplugged the phone because of that.

Second of all, I only took the message board off the door after it kept falling down.

And she has this b***h fest and is like, she touched my stuff! Im like, you f*****g left you dirty underwear on my side of the closet and I had to DIG through your size 32 -something pants and find my f*****g remote, you b***h!

But no, I didnt actually say that, I just was like .... I am better then her, so I ignored her, which makes her even more mad.

I have to go to dinner in an hour and if I f*****g see her, I am going to kill her. NOT really, but still ... Im f*****g losing my face and composure and I feel ... despondent

I suggest taking pictures of her stuff , and your own.