"You are a joke to me, as is everyone else."

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Oh man, I am soooooooo pissed. Here's why.

I have 11 earrings in each ear. I didn't decide to get these piercings for attention- as a matter of fact I didn't think it would be as noticeable as it seems to be. I just always thought that the look of a bunch of silver rings going down an ear was cool, not cool as in fitting in type of cool but intrinsically cool. So, I got the piercings over a period of time. ((Might I add, I am now DONE and see no need to do more.)) I do admit it looks excessive; I also admit I do things to excess as a general rule. Other than that and my nose stud I dress relatively conservative most of the time, and I honestly do not think I look particularly bizarre. ((I am but I don't look it.))

Now, this was not for attention but it DOES get attention; at least once a week on average a stranger will comment on them. Generally they just look at me and ask with absolutely no context whatsoever: "How many?" It's actually a little annoying but it's also a decently funny running gag, so it doesn’t bug me too much.

Today in the supermarket, however, this wench crossed several major lines at once. I'll tell you what she did, and then explain why it bugged me so much. So actually looked at me, pointed, and burst out laughing (I never knew people really did that, honestly) and turned to her boyfriend (poor guy) and said "Look at all those holes!" I said nothing while she continued to expound on it, and he replied to her, "That's how it is these days." ((Yes, the world is going to h-ll because people are getting too many piercings. not because it's filled with people like- well, you get where I was going with that.)) His comment to her was the final straw; I walked out of the aisle and said to her (not even looking at her that I remember, "It's nice to be a walking freak show, lady." ((Not the wittiest remark but better than nothing.)) Might I add they cut me off when I was pulling out of the supermarket and I took the opportunity to flip them off; not that that was a "good" thing but I still hope they saw it.

Anyway, here is what is wrong with what she did, in ascending order of offensiveness.

1. She initiated an interaction with a random stranger in public. I hate it when people do this; in fact I am usually on guard in supermarkets for this reason because once I bought multiples of one time, causing the cashier to comment on it, "Oh, somebody likes popcorn." I want the same cashier to do that again so I can tell them off, actually, something like "I have OCD. It's really sweet of you to make fun of my mental problems, and might I add, it boosts my self-esteem tremendously and that REALLY helps on the path to recovery from an anxiety disorder."

2. She was extremely insulting. ((As was hey boyfriend.)) I don't think I need to explain this one.

3. ((And here is what gets me)): She DID NOT SPEAK TO ME. She spoke ABOUT me, right in front of me, at a high volume (I mean even more than an "indoor voice"), but did not even address me. It was like I wasn't there, wasn't a person, or was less of a person than her because I was "weird."

I am actually at this point more offended by here mere existence than anything else, because she didn't apologize, didn't try to mitigate what she said, and I think it's because she's the type who views the world as one big setup to a joke. People like that seem to feel that strangers are straight men for them, and if they see a way to get a joke off of them, they will. They're the loud, bossy, oblivious, hyenas who take offense if YOU take offense, and she probably though I was the one who was in the wrong.

To close:

AAAAAAAGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!! !! !

Its an NT, what do you expect?

Here is an idea - carry around a syringe full of your own blood. Next time an NT annoys you, jab them with it and tell them they've got AIDS. Then quickly whip out your camera and take a photo of that priceless expression.

(Yeah, I'm not exactly feeling NT-tolerant today)

Many people will talk about You in front of you, its a way not to interact with you inviting argument and insult onto their own person, yet giving one them selves, the world is full of judgmental people, and yes even you are one, we all are in one way or another, its more of a matter of what we do about what we think, many (most) just keep there thoughts to them selves, others like the attention given to them when they make noise, wanting affirmation from others or something of the like, some, still, like to see reactions come from others giving them reason to vent their other frustrations on the world, the reasons for many's actions are plurabus and beyond even my conceptions, I my self would have flipped her off to her face or mooned her. but then again, I have no fear of what others think of me in such matters as appearances, all depending on my mood I guess, other then my wanting to let them know its not acceptable to insult others with nothing in return. I grew out of that long ago.

Oh, the 'burst out laughing in the shop / supermarket' routine? I had that a couple of times when I was younger, but because they were bigger and older than me, there wasn't much I could do about it.

I am afraid this is an exposure to the genus 'ego-inflaticus moronicus'. The species tends to gather in herds; they feed off each other as a form of social reinforcement and self-validation. Very often, this species is to be found vying for the most prominent social positions and very often, there is a war of attrition among their own kind as their conceit, vanity and stupidity causes all manner of reactions that create strife, unpleasantness and ill-feeling.

The best way of dealing with these types (while remaining this side of legal), is to avoid them at all costs.

On a more serious note though, try to remember that the 'fault' rests with them rather than you. Perhaps she was quite old and was simply unaccustomed to the fact that people can wear more than one ear-ring in each ear.

i know how distressing it can be when strangers think they can say what they like to you. i have (mild) tourette's syndrome and sometimes when i'm going through phases of stress my symptoms become worse. one of the things that gets noticed the most is when i repetitively make snorting noices (i know i'm constructing a very attractive picture of myself here!) and i will frequently get asked "ah, have you got a cold?" and it annoys me so much because when people remark upon my tics it makes me feel self-conscious which makes me feel more stressed which makes my tics even worse!
once i got so fed up (because it was the third time someone had asked me that day) i said "i wish it was a cold because if it was it would be over in a few days but unfortunately i have tourette's syndrome for LIFE."
i think the reason it annoys me so much is because if i met someone who appeared to have a cold i wouldn't care if they did or didn't have one and i'd certainly never initiate a conversation about it. but that is the way of the NT: they are so obsessed with communicating with people they will use any excuse to get their dirty, little fix.

she sounds like such a cow.

Ergh... I despise discourtesy and would have loved to tell her a thing or two if it had happened to me (if I could have gotten my tongue and brain to work in cooperation that is)...

It´s an annoying fact that if you don´t look like the mass some people have to make comments to you or about you.

More than 10 years now I have been running as a sport and if you´re running you´re wearing running-clothes, so you don´t look like the mass.
Particularly when you´re running in the city some people have to make irritating comments to you.

Sometimes these are just baldy remarks about your appearance.

Most times they have to yell something like "They already got him". This is supposed to be funny, but I really can´t imagine what´s the fun communicating with a running person as the conversation if happening at all will be very short. I´ve heard this same joke a thousand times, so I suppose this is a sort of conspiracy of people who have nothing else to do.

Another remark, obviously having the sole intention to irritate the running person is the following: "One, two, three, one, two, three".

As for supermarkets:
These are my favourite places to study the behaviour of human beings.

Since moving into my new dorm room, I have been a little irritable because I don't have my air conditioning installed yet. But in general, I tend not to notice other people's insults. On the other hand, I sometimes rather nonchalantly say something a little inappropriate. Sometimes I feel I am supposed to give a response to a major insult, but I usually don't feel very much emotionally about it. I can say kind of rude things to keep myself entertained in a boring situation. For example, my mom, stepfather, brother, sister, and I were shopping for clothes at Old Navy. I noticed a transvestite and pointed it out without much forethought: "Hey! That girl looks like a guy!" Heshe immediately moved to a checkout line much farther away and was noticeably embarrassed. I don't know what exactly motivates me to do such things: Do I feel compelled to make this person realize the ridiculous of how they are? At other times, I flaunt my inane and sarcastic sense of humor to my family to keep things "lively" while we're running errands. I don't think anyone's really listening.

On the flip side, I wouldn't get worked up much emotionally at an insult but may play the offended. I might kind of do a mock version of how people are easily offended: "Well, I've never! Hmph!" I think it has to do with the fact that it takes a lot for most of my emotions to become markably engaged, so a lot of times I do a kind of absurd exaggeration of the emotion most NTs would display in a situation instead for humorous effect.

I can become really embarrassed, though, when I feel I did something embarrassing. If other people are even paying attention, I don't notice. I can do what would be embarrassing to other people, though, without much concern because, when I'm in a jokesy mode, I'm oblivious to such things. As I've said before, my personality switches between many different modes.

Transgendered. And what do you think I am?

Kinda strange these days though how men are usually thought of as Transvestites where women are usually refered to as Trangendered... Still trying to figure that one out. Maybe because a man in drag often looks more extreme than a woman in drag...

Maybe it's also because more men's clothes can appear gender-neutral than women's.